What are the three six rites of ancient marriage?
Engagement letter: An engagement letter in which a man and a woman formally enter into an engagement and confirm their marriage.
Gift book: gift list, gift book, detailing the types and quantities of gifts.
Marriage book: a book for marrying the bride, which is used when picking up the bride on the wedding day.
Six rites
Nacai: The man proposed to the woman.
Seeking a name: putting eight characters in it means that the man asks the woman's name and date of birth, which is called "matching eight characters" today.
Najib: Guo was the first wedding in ancient times. When he wanted the woman, he asked the matchmaker for advice, which is now called "marriage proposal"
Requisition: gifts, gift boxes, cakes, gifts, sacrifices, etc. , are formal gifts of bride price.
Invitation: Choose the wedding date, and choose "auspicious day" according to the birthdays of the bride, groom and their families.
Wedding reception: On the wedding day, both men and women will decorate their homes and make a scene. Then the groom will take the bride into the door and hold the wedding in the presence of relatives and friends of both sides.
Excessive gift
What is "gift giving"? Modern people have long ignored the "three books and six gifts" and usually only carry out the ceremony of "giving gifts". Up to now, it has become a written rule. That is, the man's family prepares gifts and various gifts for the woman's family as an engagement ceremony.
Matters needing attention in gift giving
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The items in the bride price are auspicious, and the number is even, that is, even, which means pairs.
The bride price needs to be packed in five China gift boxes to be considered as a gift. In order to get even numbers, attach a mailbox and six gift boxes.
The man chooses an auspicious day (about 0/5 to 20 days before marriage/kloc-) to prepare gifts and cash gifts for the woman's home.
When a woman receives a man's dowry, she doesn't accept it all, but needs a gift in return, usually half or several.
present
Gift cake: two pairs of dragon and phoenix gift cakes, one pair of men and one pair of women. It is mainly used for ancestor worship to wish the newlyweds good luck, a hundred years of harmony and eternal unity. A load of gift cakes can be divided into four kinds, six kinds and eight kinds, all of which are even. Generally speaking, Chinese gift cakes are divided into solid cakes and cakes. The former includes HongLing, Huang Ling and Bai Ling. The latter includes cakes, granny cakes, peach cakes and jujube cakes, and the more expensive ones can be preserved egg cakes and oyster sauce cakes. Chinese gift cakes are based on 100 Jin, with four cakes per Jin.
A mailbox: commonly known as a gift box, containing two pairs of lotus seeds, lilies, green bamboo shoots, arborvitae, betel nuts, sesame seeds, red beans, mung beans, red dates, dried peaches and longan (these four are even); There are also red ropes, profits, engagement money, decoration money and so on. The man will also prepare a pair of dragon and phoenix candles and a couplet.
Coconut: Parents should use two pairs or one pair when they are alive. Think of it as grandpa and son.
Tea, sesame: This means that once engaged, a woman must keep her promise and never go back on her word. This is the so-called Ma You Tea Ceremony.
Betel nut: two pairs
Three kinds of animals: two pairs of chickens or geese, two females and two males (if parents are not alive, one pair is enough). Pork flies in pairs, that is, a few kilograms are split in two and the bottoms are connected together.
Fish: A pair, usually big fish. Take it and smell it.
Seafood: There are four kinds, six kinds and eight kinds. Usually four kinds of seafood, abalone, sea cucumber, shark's fin, fish belly and scallop can be used for high-grade products; More economical can choose squid, dried shrimps, mushrooms and oyster sauce.
Guo Jing: Fruit, dried longan, dried litchi, dried peach and peanut are commonly known as the Four Meridians.
Others: two pairs of dragon and phoenix candles and two pairs of couplets. Tobacco, wine and fruit are optional.
Female home furnishing gift
Half or more of the man's dowry, but it must be in pairs.
Tea, cheese, fruit.
A pair of lotus roots, taro and pomegranate.
He Wei towel (that is, towel).
For a son-in-law, there are two pairs of suits or materials, namely a belt, a wallet [with money in it] and Li Li, which reads: "Five generations live under one roof, a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren", a pair of shoes and two pairs of socks.
A betel nut.
Tea ceremony includes muffins, fried piles and red envelopes.
Anchuang
Choose a good auspicious day, and the "lucky guy" (the elder or relative of the groom-to-be, who chooses parents who are alive, married harmoniously and have children) will move to a new bed; Then by the "lucky girl" (meaning a lucky lady all her life; For example, people who are healthy, with husbands alive and grandchildren make beds, spread mattresses, bed sheets and dragon and phoenix quilts on the beds, and sprinkle all kinds of happy fruits, such as red dates, longan, lychee, red mung beans and Ber Ber.
After the new bed is installed, no one can touch it until the couple gets married and enters the room.
When a couple enters the house, they can let their children eat happy fruit in bed, which is called "pressing the bed", which means a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren.
If you want to add a lively atmosphere, the groom's brother of the same age can make trouble in the new house, which shows that it is a good chess after marriage. I think the trouble in the new house is getting more and more serious.
Precautions:
During the first month of the wedding, pregnant women and undertaker are not allowed to enter the new house.
Women who have had an affair for one month are not allowed to enter the new house (except the bride) after going to bed and on their wedding night.