When is the day when a woman can’t stay overnight at her parents’ house?
These are all feudal superstitions. My daughter grew up in her parents’ home. It doesn’t matter which day we stay in her parents’ home. There is no ominous sign at all. It’s just feudal superstition. Daughters are also children born to their parents. , it’s okay to be at home any day.
Can’t twenty-three be in the mother’s family?
The traditional Chinese understanding of family formation is that when a woman marries, she immediately becomes a formal member of the man’s family. The former natal family was reduced to a "relative" relationship. For example, in the past, when a woman named Li married into the Zhang family, she was called "Zhang Li". This was the meaning. The original surname "Li" became a secondary one. When a woman officially becomes a member of the man's family, it is impossible to go to the "relatives" house too casually, let alone the day when the family is reunited on the New Year's Eve or the New Year's Eve. In feudal society, a married woman who often returned to her natal home would be scolded not only by her parents-in-law, but also by her natal family. You also have to be gossiped about by people around you.
On Xiaonian, if a married daughter returns to her parents’ home to visit her relatives, she will bring the fortune of her mother-in-law’s family to her parents’ home. This is detrimental to the feng shui of understanding, and a married woman will not be happy on Xiaonian. Returning to your natal family in the sky also indicates that you will get married or remarried soon, which is very unlucky.
But according to modern concepts, the social atmosphere is no longer what it used to be. It is okay to go back to your parents' home on the 23rd of the twelfth lunar month.
On which day you cannot go back to your natal home
It is not advisable to go back to your natal home on the day of offering sacrifices to the stove
In Henan, there is a custom that women do not go back to their natal home on the day of offering sacrifices to the stove because women do not offer sacrifices to the stove. Generally speaking, a bride should not stay at her parents' home for too long. If she stays too long, she will miss the affairs of her husband's family and her parents' family. The married daughter is a guest and must be treated seriously.
Don’t go back to your parents’ home on the first day of the first lunar month
The first day of the first lunar month is the first day of the Lunar New Year, which is also the first day of the New Year. The first day of the Lunar New Year is a happy day for family reunion. According to traditional customs, in many places married daughters are prohibited from returning to their parents' homes on the first day of the Lunar New Year. If you return to your parents’ home on the first day of the Lunar New Year, your husband’s family will not be able to reunite.
In addition, it is also forbidden to return to your natal family at the beginning of spring, because "spring" is bigger than "year", otherwise your natal family will be poor.