What are the common sexual dreams of women? Why do women have spring dreams?
1, the most common sexual dream
Dream 1: dream of intimate behavior with superiors and colleagues. Leslie, a 26-year-old single female teacher, usually has little contact with her colleagues, but she often dreams that a male colleague takes her riding outdoors. In the dream, the stimulation of the saddle made her enjoy pleasure and even groan. Leslie is often embarrassed about this.
Dr Pam Spall, an expert in interpersonal psychology in London, said that dreaming of a superior leader or colleague does not mean that you subconsciously want to have sex with him or her, but mostly means that you admire this person's ability and hope that he or she will give you guidance and help. Horses often appear in women's sexual dreams, and women who like masturbation may dream of stroking horses.
Dream 2: Dream of sharing a room in public. Dina, 29, dreamed that she met a strange man at the airport. After the man accosted, he pulled her into his arms and the two began to have sex in full view. What makes Dina feel funniest is that she didn't see the man's face at all in her dream.
Carol L. Cummins, a dream analyst in Arizona, said that this kind of sexual dream reveals an open mind, indicating that you are looking forward to a new relationship and are full of enthusiasm for a new love life. "I can't see a man's face clearly" is a kind of self-protection, which shows that my heart is still preparing for the arrival of new feelings.
Dream 3: I dreamed of making out with the same sex. Jane Yin, a 37-year-old nurse, dreamed that she met a woman in a coffee shop. When drinking coffee, the coffee foam splashed on her mouth, and the woman smiled and kissed her lips and neck. In reality, Jane has no homosexual tendencies.
Dr. Spall said that dreaming of touching the same sex does not mean that your sexual orientation has changed, but that you expect more care and consideration in sex, and you are eager for your partner to be more gentle. It also shows that you expect same-sex understanding in your life.
Dream 4: Dream of sharing a room with a celebrity. Kathy, 34, said that during the hit of Titanic, she dreamed of having sex with the hero Leonardo DiCaprio in broad daylight many times, although she was discovered by her family.
People often have sex dreams about celebrities, especially women. Dreaming of having sex with a star is actually expecting your other half to have some characteristics of a star, such as courage or romance. In her dream, her family didn't stop appearing, which showed that she was confident about sex.
Dream 5: I dreamed of sharing a room at home when I was a child. 39-year-old Mary dreamed that she was having sex with a man at her mother's house, but she didn't like that man and even hated him. Many of her sexual dreams took place in her childhood home.
Dr. holloway said that dreaming of his childhood home shows that his current sexual concept is greatly influenced by his family, and that he hopes to return to a simpler life in his childhood. People who dream of having sex with annoying people indicate that they may encounter some difficulties that they have to face in reality and need to communicate with people around them.
Dream 6: Dream of cheating. Liz, 3 1 year-old, dreamed of having sex with her husband's brother or friend many times. In the dream, sharing a room is very natural, and Liz enjoys it very much. But such a straightforward and real sexual dream also made her feel "guilty of derailment."
Dr. Spall said that this dream doesn't mean that you want to cheat. Maybe it's just that your life is too dull. Having this dream repeatedly shows that you are tired of a certain part of marriage (not necessarily sex life), and you should take measures to rekindle the happiness of husband and wife.
Dream 7: Dream of rekindling old love. Stephanie, 37, is a mother of two children. She often dreamed that she was crazy and happy with her secret tutor in college, and the profundity and connotation of the tutor conquered her.
Dr. Cummings said that if we have a strong emotional connection with someone, then we may dream about this person in our sexual dreams. Dreaming of old love is very common, which may symbolize some kind of connection between you and him (her). Stephanie dreamed of her mentor, which shows that she misses her youth, freedom and curiosity at that stage.
Dream 8: I dreamed that my roommate was forced to interrupt. Katie, 39, dreamed of sleeping with a man she liked, but it ended before she reached the climax. She often has such sexual dreams. The foreplay is wonderful, but it is always interrupted near the climax.
Dr. Cummings said that this may indicate that Katie's sexual needs are not met, and on the other hand, she is dissatisfied with her current life. If you always dream that your roommate is interrupted or unable to reach orgasm, it may indicate that you lack trust in your lover or are afraid of intimacy.
2, the quality standard of the same room
Standard 1. Actually share a room for 7- 13 minutes.
Researchers at Birand College in Pennsylvania found that the most suitable time for sexual intercourse (sexual organ contact) is 7- 13 minutes. More than 13 minutes, men's fatigue will increase and their physical strength will be difficult to recover; In less than 7 minutes, both sides will feel that they are still unfinished.
Standard 2: At least two romantic contacts.
"For women, the same room does not start from undressing, but from the moment they contact men." Dr Bonnie Jacobson, a British roommate expert, pointed out in his book that at least two romantic contact opportunities should be arranged 1-2 days before roommates, such as giving a small gift to lovers, watching a romantic movie together, or sending a flirtatious text message during work breaks, which will increase the expectations of roommates, especially make women get into the state faster.
Standard 3: Foreplay lasts for 6 minutes.
Proper foreplay is very important for both sides, which can help women produce secretions in their private parts and help men enhance their erectile hardness. Dr Kurt, a psychologist and sex therapist in Michigan, USA, pointed out that the best "sexual foreplay" should meet people's four needs of sight, touch, smell and hearing, and it is generally appropriate to say provocative words, breathe contact, kiss and caress for 6- 10 minutes.
Standard 4: Appropriate contraceptive measures
A recent survey by Kinsey Institute of Sexuality shows that good contraceptive measures can make both parties have no worries and be more involved in the same room. Contraceptive pills and condoms are good choices. Of course, if you have decided to have children, then relax and enjoy it.
Standard 5: Hug afterwards 10 minutes.
Ignoring "after-play" is a common problem for men all over the world, but sharing a room without after-play is incomplete. Professor Ma Xiaonian from the Department of Sexual Medicine, yuquan hospital, Tsinghua University suggested that after each sexual life, giving each other some praise and encouragement, cleaning each other's private parts, or silently hugging for 10 minutes can make both sides psychologically satisfied and deepen their feelings.
Standard six: achieve three "clean, quiet and clean"
Dr. Jacobson said that before sharing a room, "the bedding should be clean, the environment should be quiet and the heart should be clean." Clean and tidy bedding is a necessary prerequisite for sharing a room, and cotton sheets and big beds are the best choice. A quiet environment means no noise and no family interference. Inner purity means no distractions and troubles.