Notes on the growth of elephants
"Your child is not your child.
Life longs for children. "
When I was twenty, I was told that I would have my own children very late. Being a boy, he somehow believed it. So when I was just pregnant, I nicknamed him the boy "Elephant". In the days before we met him, my husband and I never thought about teaching him anything, nor did we think about reading and listening to songs for him. The only thing we often say to him is "don't worry, elephant, bring all the spare parts, big and small, when you come out!" " "... hearing his crying, Mr. Wang glanced at his five fingers and toes and felt extremely gratified.
? Health is probably our first expectation for him, and it has always been.
? One day, he will start primary school.
? I remember it was the first day of school. When I left, I smiled and whispered in his ear, "If you need to write your name, you can write it in English instead of Chinese …" The elephant turned around and said with a smile, "Mom, I have always done this!" Turned and skipped away, feeling grown up. ......
A tree, how it grows, it is natural.
? Elephants have shown great interest in reading since they were one year old. Whether reading or playing, he is very devoted and has a good time. We have never used a literacy card or taught him to read, but since he was three years old, he can read by himself, and I don't need to read it to him anymore.
Many people around me ask me why he likes reading so much and is so absorbed. In retrospect, it is probably the key to let the child grow up in nature and protect his attention.
? We only choose natural toys for him. We can still remember his surprised and happy expression when he first found a picture on the black screen at home when he was more than three years old. We let him play in the garden at will, and never restricted him from playing with stones, grabbing soil and weeding. Gradually, he learned a lot about nature, formed the habit of being close to nature, and liked reading books related to nature. On the wish card when I graduated from kindergarten, the elephant said, "When I grow up, I want to have a big garden and plant many kinds of plants, all of which can grow well."
This year, when we walked in the mountains together, he would tell me many things, such as where the old river might be, which plants were special, and we would notice the traces of snails crawling ... We always believed that nature would give people inner strength and wisdom.
? My husband and I have been trying to show elephants the bright side of things.
I remember that in the autumn when the elephant was 5 years old, I was going to take him to the Czech Republic for kindergarten. The plane is at 1 p.m. At breakfast that morning, the elephant said that his throat was uncomfortable. An hour later, his careful father found a small rash on his hands. My husband and I looked at each other and blurted out, "hand, foot and mouth!" " About our tone is serious, and the elephant realizes something. "What shall we do?" The expression on her face is about to cry. Calm for a while, I held his hand, looked into his eyes and said softly, "Elephant, how lucky we are. Now before boarding the plane, you can find it is hand, foot and mouth. If we find it in the Czech Republic, it will be even harder. " Hand, foot and mouth doesn't matter. We'll just go in ten days. "The elephant's expression immediately relaxed and smiled. I was deeply impressed and shocked by the almost instantaneous change in his face.
Elephants often laugh when reading books, which is really charming. But the world in the book is not the real world after all. Whenever there is an opportunity, we will take him out to travel, get in touch with the real world and get along with unfamiliar people.
Let the child have an open mind, which is probably another expectation for him.
This summer, our family of three traveled to Wan Fenglin in Xingyi, Guizhou, and an "elephant adventure" happened. That day, we went to Zhenfeng and had dinner there. After eating, we suddenly heard the elephant say "fishbone". Then we coughed loudly, alarmed the nearby store, made it vomit, and poured half a bowl of vinegar, all to no avail. The little guy was about to cry and decided not to try again. He hugged him and said with certainty, "It's okay, mom and dad are here." "I thought it was just a small thorn. I didn't expect to get the county hospital from the town hospital. Someone warned me of the danger and said that I would go to the city hospital to take it out, which means it is more than 100 kilometers away. It rained cats and dogs all the way, probably because mom and dad's relaxed words infected the little guy. On the way for more than two hours, the elephant fell asleep peacefully in the car. It's past eleven o'clock in Xingyi. There is water everywhere, and some places are still deep. We drove slowly in front of us and waited for the traffic lights at an intersection. There was water everywhere, only to find that the exhaust pipe had fallen off. Finally, we found the garage, knocked on the door to wake up the master, repaired the car and went to the hospital. At midnight, the thorn that killed us was easily taken out, nearly 3 cm long. In the whole process, the little guy followed his parents, upstairs and downstairs, always showing calmness and cooperation.
Afterwards, I chatted with the elephant about the real anxiety and distress on my aunt's face. After talking about the driver's uncle Huang's running before and after, I told him that the innkeeper specially left him porridge, as well as the master who knocked on the door to wake him up, and the doctor who was still sleepy and humorous ... This trip was really unforgettable not only because of the scenery, but also left a lot of love and goodwill in the little guy's heart.
? The dates on the jujube tree in my neighbor's sister's house turned red yesterday. The elephant enthusiastically took the long pole at home to help her beat dates. When it fell to the ground, she also picked it up and handed it to her sister. When she got home, she smiled and said handsomely, "It feels good to help others!" My thoughts seem to be fixed in this scene.
I remember a poem that said, "The future of a child is something you can't see in your dreams." I believe this is true.
? As parents, we can never foresee his future, his potential, the difficulties he will encounter and what kind of situation he is in. The best gift we can give him is health, which is a solid and powerful foundation for his life; Then help him to establish a more comprehensive perspective on the world, which determines whether the world in his eyes is beautiful or helpless and ugly; But the most important thing is to hope that he has an open and grateful heart, because this is the best way for him to get along with the world.