The road of husband and wife's name
Whether a pair of shoes fits or not is only known by your own feet. Only two people in a marriage know whether a marriage is suitable or not.
The right person is happy all his life, and the wrong person walks away. People who have lost their way in love try to find their own happiness, and when they meet the right person, they will re-enter the marriage hall.
So how can remarried families be happy for a long time?
Mutual trust is the cornerstone of half-way couples' happiness.
In people's common sense, most people think that remarried couples will not live as hard as the original couple. The reason for this is also obvious.
A friend of mine left with his daughter after divorcing his ex-wife. Two years ago, a colleague introduced him to a girl about his age. We both like each other and want to get married.
After contact with the woman, he found some shortcomings. Women have their own jobs and their wages are not low, but they never spend money, go out to play, treat guests and so on. She pays for everything, and the woman just stays with her, never pays the bill, no matter how big or small, never takes the initiative.
Friends complain. After all, it is the most important thing for two people to be together and talk to each other heart to heart. They didn't want to spend a little money, so they kept it. If one day they need money, can he help themselves? So there was doubt between the two.
A friend bought a house for her daughter without telling her. The woman also bought fixed assets for her children without telling him. No one in our circle of friends dares to say anything, but everyone knows that their marriage will still have problems.
After two or three years of contact, they were so thoughtful that they didn't even get a marriage certificate, so they lived an insecure life.
I asked, aren't you getting married? He said, that's it. There is no trust between two people. How can I get married?
This kind of family with mentality has no future at all, because there is no real love for each other.
It is not easy to reorganize a family. Now that the two sides have come together, they should run this family well. No matter what kind of difficulties and problems there are, we should face them correctly and solve them together. Compared with family of origin, remarried couples need to be more open and transparent in property management. Doing so is not only a respect for each other, but also a love for each other.
Realizing family harmony and happiness is a test for both husband and wife in remarried families. Because the situation of remarried families is much more specific than that of family of origin, such as children's upbringing and education, parents' problems, property problems and so on.
San Mao once said: Love will not last long if it is not implemented in the real life of dressing, eating and sleeping.
So is marriage.
Money can't be shared. How can you spend the rest of your life with deep affection and love?
Therefore, if remarried couples want to live a happy life, they must first trust each other, whether economically or emotionally.
Let the past be the past forever.
There's nothing wrong with being divorced and having the best relationship with your ex.
Zhou said in Man and Eternity:
"All communication has an insurmountable final boundary. This boundary is not clear, but it is certain. All troubles and conflicts begin with unintentional attempts to break through this boundary. "
In the TV series Xiao Min Jia, after Xiao Min divorced her ex-husband Jin Bo, she had to give up the custody of her son Jin Jiajun because she was unable to support him.
Years later, the middle-aged Mandy finally let go of herself and fell in love with a man her own age, Chen Zhuo.
It's just that life is full of accidents
The arrival of her son and ex-husband broke Xiao Min's quiet life. Although her ex-husband finally left, Xiao Min's life was almost destroyed again.
Therefore, no matter what reason we separated at the beginning, divorce is divorce, and there should be no more contact, otherwise it is a denial of each other's choice.
Now that you are divorced, you should look forward to it. Since you choose to remarry, you should know that the talent in front of you is your future. For ex-wives or ex-husbands, the farther away, the better. If you are still entangled, your ex-wife or ex-husband will become an "untimely bomb" and may blow up your marriage at any time.
As a family reorganization, we must know our own situation, have a firm attitude and draw a clear line with our predecessors. Even if the other party uses the child as an excuse, it cannot be shaken. You know, if it's really for the children, how can it be divorced?
So, just one sentence: let bygones be bygones!
The feelings between men and women are always selfish, and couples are more sensitive on the way. Since you gave up the relationship with your ex, it means that your fate is over, even for the sake of children, it is an excuse in the eyes of people now. If you can't live without your predecessor, don't blame your current distrust.
You know, you can't have your cake and eat it. Only by knowing how to choose can you get a chance of happiness.
Decisively cutting off all relations with the ex is a bright light that illuminates the road of happiness for couples halfway.
Love, be tolerant of each other.
The biggest purpose of remarriage between men and women should be: to let children regain the love of their parents;
For remarried couples, children mean contradictions.
Why?
Because when you can't handle this matter well, children will become a catalyst for your contradictions. After all, I have experienced a failure, so I feel that my children have suffered too much, and others' children are not as good as their own. When you have such an idea, your trouble comes. Improper handling means constant contradictions.
It's hard to be a stepmother. It's a difficult technical job. Strict management, afraid of being accused of child abuse or something, but also afraid of irresponsibility. It's really hard.
In children's eyes, stepfathers and stepmothers are the third parties who break into the house, and they are obstacles that hinder biological parents from being together. They hate stepfathers and stepmother and constantly provoke them to achieve their goals.
Therefore, dealing with the relationship between children of both sides is very beneficial to the relationship between husband and wife and the growth of children. If it is not handled well, many contradictions will arise, which will affect the relationship between husband and wife and the growth of children.
Therefore, being kind to remarried couples and their children is a course that couples must learn on the road to happiness.
Think about it, I want to live with this man because I love him, so why can't I tolerate his children? If you really love each other, love me, love my dog, you will love each other's children from the heart.
"Family with Children" broadcast by CCTV has taught us a good lesson from the aspect of family reorganization.
Family with Children is a reorganized family, and both families have children. They can live in harmony because both husband and wife set an example and handle everything fairly. Quarrel is inevitable, but children must know what they have done wrong and learn to tolerate, apologize and understand each other.
Children's role models are their parents.
We also know that it is not easy for a child who has nothing to do with himself to accept himself completely. But how can our marriage be unhappy when we are still willing to give love, care and protect our children?
Marriage itself is not an easy thing, especially the second marriage. Please don't look at the couple halfway with prejudice. Everyone has the right to a happy marriage. As long as you are sincere, the remarried family can live a colorful and happy life.
Therefore, mutual trust is a solid cornerstone on the road to happiness for couples halfway; Grasping the border with the ex is the guiding light on the road of happiness for couples halfway; Loving the person you love is a powerful boost to the happiness of couples halfway.
Smart people don't fall down twice in the same place. At any time, they should trust more, care more and be less selfish. The second marriage will be happy and last forever.