What are the sayings of marriage in ancient times?

Fitness, in the old society, refers to women getting married. For example, "The Core Monument of Confucius' Family Language Life": "The female is fifteen years old, and the Tao is suitable for people. "Another example is Peacock Flying Southeast:" The poor have this daughter, so they should only return home. " "Adaptation" means marriage, and "re-adaptation" means remarriage.

Return, the original meaning is that women get married. Such as: "Qin Bo belongs to five women." As for the meaning of "return" when a woman is married, there is a sentence in Confucius's Shu: "A woman ... takes her husband as her home, so she is called" return "when she is married." It means that when a woman marries her husband's family, it's like going home. Gui Youguang's Ling Xuan Zhi in the Ming Dynasty said: "In the past five years, my wife came back to Xuan and asked me about the past.

Marriage, in ancient times, the princess was called married. Yuan Zhen's "Seven Princess System": "Although it is still fair, Tom has given it first, and the packet is justified." Later, it was a general term for women to get married.

Wedding is one of the five rites, and it is a traditional gift of ancient China society. As the old saying goes: "Those who are not conscious of courtesy must be in line with the interests of their two surnames. The upper one is the temple, and the lower one is inherited by future generations, so the gentleman values it; Those who are shocked by the ceremony are also the foundation of the ceremony. "In other words, the wedding is not just an individual's behavior, but a family event in which two people live in harmony.

"The life of parents, the words of the matchmaker." Is the primary requirement of traditional marriage. The ancients paid attention to the words of matchmakers, and the matchmaker was an indispensable element in traditional weddings in China. The matchmaker runs ahead and the parents approve behind, which are two essential basic elements of marriage. Without any marriage, it cannot be established.

Three Six Rites "three books, namely one. Engagement letter: a letter from a man and a woman formally concluding an engagement. Gift book: Gift book, that is, gift list, lists in detail the types and quantities of gifts to be used when receiving gifts (gifts). Marriage book: a book about marriage with the bride. For picking up the bride on the wedding day.

Six gifts, that is, one acceptance: the first wedding in ancient times, when the woman was interested, she asked the matchmaker as the medium. This is called acceptance, and now it is called "proposal". Second, ask the name: when the man asks the woman's name and date of birth, it is called 1 and auspicious to ask the name. Now it is called "eight characters". Sanji: If the name is auspicious, send a matchmaker to send a small gift, which is called Naji, and now it is called Guo or Guo. Four signs: giving gifts, cakes, gifts and sacrifices. That is, formally giving a bride price, this is called a levy, and now it is called "indiscriminate gift." 5. Invitation: The man asked the fortune teller to choose a date, which is called invitation, also known as "begging for an appointment", and now it is called "choosing a date". Six-parent wedding ceremony: the groom takes a limousine and goes to the woman's house to meet the bride, which is called the wedding ceremony. The above procedures were stipulated by the nobles of the literati class. As for the etiquette of emperors, princes and doctors, it is more grand because of different grades, while ordinary people are often crude and simple.

The age of marriage must be considered in ancient weddings. As the old saying goes, "If a husband doesn't marry at twenty, his parents are guilty, and if a woman doesn't marry at fifteen, her parents are guilty.