"I am waking them up with my life."
She was diagnosed with bipolar disorder at the age of 65,438+06, and her desperate parents tried countless methods. In the summer when she was 20 years old, she was taken to Hulunbeier Grassland in Inner Mongolia to attend a summer camp held by a man named Ju EULAN SPA01.
There, everyone changed into uniforms, and every child at the dinner table had to propose a toast to their parents, and they would be "punished" for breaking the rules. Su Xing tried to escape and call the police, but he was finally sent back and accepted the "punishment".
On May 1, Ju EULAN SPA01 said in an interview with the Beijing News that he advocated the "Oriental traditional family education model" and "disciplining" children with a ruler was an indispensable means to "restore family style". He compared himself to a "Don Quixote" figure, and in order to save a painful family, he started "Love Without Borders". "These children are all my children, and I am waking them up with my life."
But in Su Xing's view, Ju EULAN SPA01 is a shadow in her life and a destroyer of family relations. She posted on the Internet, telling her experiences. Some children who have been to the learning camp also stood up. Most of them are "problem of juvenile" in the eyes of their parents-suffering from mental diseases such as depression and bipolar disorder. They joined the learning camp under the "coaxing" of their parents, were asked by the giant to stop taking medicine, and were subjected to different degrees of violence such as abuse, slapping and slapping.
On the afternoon of May 6, the police of Yandong Police Station in Yancheng told the Beijing News reporter that on May 2, they received an alarm from a minor, saying that "Love Without Borders" was an "MLM organization" and the case had been investigated.
At present, the "Great Love Without Borders" Yancheng Study Camp has been closed ahead of schedule. A staff member said: "We are now in collective silence, and we will not accept the consultation of new families for the time being."
Children who were "punished" in the learning camp. Photo courtesy of respondents
A learning camp on the grassland
Su Xing and his mother Li Fang have different views on the complete breakdown of family relations.
Su Xing believes that the starting point is that parents contacted the organization "Love Without Borders". It claims that it can solve "aimless life, unmotivated study, procrastination, internet addiction, first love vortex, being tired of studying, playing truant, dropping out of school, black and white inversion, dwelling in a humble abode, confronting parents, parent-child relationship and husband-wife relationship". Her parents regard it as a "lifeline".
However, according to his mother Li Fang, the deterioration of family relations began when Su Xing was diagnosed with bipolar disorder in high school. After her daughter fell ill, she and her husband felt guilty. "It's too good for her, what all indulge her. She is demanding more and more from us. " That Su Xing lived alone in Wuhan as an adult. I hardly go home at ordinary times, and my mother's contact information is hacked, and I only communicate with my father occasionally.
Su Xing's diagnosis report. Photo courtesy of respondents
Li Fang refused to admit that her daughter was ill. She saw a counselor once or twice a week, and after taking the medicine, she didn't get better. "Love Without Borders" coincides with her-Ju EULAN SPA01 told the Beijing News reporter that he only treated mental diseases caused by brain trauma and nerve injury, and "mental diseases" such as depression did not exist.
Love Without Borders claims that by the end of 20 19, they had helped "153 children who were diagnosed by experts as depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, autism, mania, psychosis, etc. and were forced to take psychotropic drugs and admitted to special hospitals for detoxification." For example, Ju EULAN SPA01 said, "A child who used to take psychotropic drugs for more than six years stopped taking drugs after meeting me. Now he not only works, but also gets a driver's license. "
From July 2065438 to July 2008, my parents proposed to Su Xing that they wanted to go to Hulunbeier Grassland, a country with boundless love, for about ten days.
My parents spent 90 thousand on this study tour. They will visit the scenic spots with more than a dozen families and enjoy the "case counseling, deep link and family adjustment" that the agency is responsible for.
On the "Great Love Boundless" official website, the giant, known as "Giant Dad", wore a blue Polo shirt, was bald, tall and slightly fat, leaning against a tree and smiling. He has many titles. He is "the founder of public welfare tutor, a visiting professor in many colleges and universities such as Peking University, Zhejiang University and Harbin Institute of Technology, honorary president of more than 20 middle schools in China, and DBA of Nice University."
Love Without Borders was released by official website. Image source network
Su Xing didn't want to go, but she couldn't stop her parents' increasingly tough attitude. They nagged, "It's easy to learn while playing" and "I'll talk to Giant EULAN SPA01 when I go there. If what he said is reasonable, you can stay there. If not, you can leave at any time. "
After arriving in the grassland, Su Xing's family of three were arranged to live in a yurt. They went to Ergon, where there are endless grasslands and large rape blossoms. Living in EULAN SPA01, I took them to ride horses, watch Mongolian performances, attend bonfire parties, and arrange tug-of-war competitions, dances and other parent-child games.
Parents are very excited, but Su Xing is not in the mood. She feels depressed, depressed, anxious and insomnia, and doesn't want to participate in group activities. Looking at the dishes all over the table will only make her feel sick. She took the medicine prescribed by the doctor and took a quarter tablet every day. "But my parents think that I am not sick and pretend to be sick, forcing me to go out and saying that if I don't, I won't be given living expenses."
During the study tour, EULAN SPA01 called Su Xing's family to his room and "contacted" them one by one. Ju EULAN SPA01 inquired about Su Xing's family problems in detail and recorded the whole process, which lasted for several hours.
After the chat, Ju EULAN SPA01 concluded that Su Xing was not ill, and her "mood" was caused by her parents' arrogance and poor communication with them. Ju EULAN SPA01 suggested that Su Xing stop taking medicine, go back to school, or work in a beauty salon run by his friend.
He also asked Su Xing to write down his parents' requirements on paper, and Su Xing wrote "I hope my parents will respect me more". Su Xing said, "At that time, he had a good attitude and I had a good attitude. I also told him a lot of truth, hoping that he would have pity on me and let me go. "
"Punishment is a family style and rule"
Soon, Su Xing found that many children who participated in the study tour camp were "cheated" by their parents, and most of them were still teenagers. Everyone has a rebellious mentality-some children are unwilling to get up to participate in activities, and some children are clamoring for suicide. Facing these unruly children, Ju EULAN SPA01 will "educate" in her own way.
There is a boy who loves playing games and thinks he is the "Li Yuanfang" in the game. Zhu EULAN SPA01 and the staff took markers and repeatedly wrote down the boy's real name on his face. As they wrote, they cursed "denying ancestors and people." Later, the boy's story was promoted as a positive model in official website by Love Without Borders.
Zhu EULAN SPA01 wrote his name all over a boy's face. Photo courtesy of respondents
Su Xing also saw boys leave the camp without authorization. Came back and was pushed to the ground by a group of people. "Slap him hard, pry his mouth open with chopsticks and throw the chair directly at him."
She was so scared that she secretly bought a plane ticket to go home the next day and reported to the police at the airport that she lived in EULAN SPA01 and was engaged in pyramid selling activities. Because there was no evidence, the police sent Su Xing back to the study camp.
After returning to the learning camp, Ju said that Su Xing had made a mistake and had to accept "punishment". He took out a 30-cm-long ruler and hit Su Xing 30 times with her father, all of which hurt her ass.
Zhu Youlan never evaded the fact of "punishment" and even thought it was a publicity stunt. According to the official WeChat account "Love Without Borders", it is called "drinking soup" to punish with a ruler, because "ruler is made of bamboo, referred to as" bamboo chips ",which makes a crackling sound when hitting the body, and" soup "is the tears from the soul of the punished person, nicknamed" bamboo chips crack soup ",which is the most distinctive and unique system.
"Although the law stipulates that children can't be beaten, I strongly support the ancestral legacy of punishment. Punishment is a family style and a family rule. Ju EULAN SPA01 told the Beijing News reporter that "punishment" is different from beating, and there is a degree. They only "punish"/kloc-children under the age of 0/8, hitting the boy's hand or ass 30 times and the girl's hand or ass 20 times at a time.
"The purpose of' punishment' is to let children know the bottom line of being a man and doing things, and they cannot commit the following crimes. Many children were persuaded after being punished, "Zhu EULAN SPA01 said.
After accepting the "punishment", Su Xing thought, it is better to be good these days. No longer resisting, she obediently toasted Ju EULAN SPA01 at the dinner table and asked her father to take his arm and pretend to be close. "But the idea in my heart is exactly the opposite, that is, I don't want to be beaten again."
The parent-child relationship has been changed.
After three or four days in the training camp, Su Xing returned to his hometown in Hubei with his parents. I also brought home a 30-cm-long wooden ruler, which was sent by Ju, and his "Quotations" were printed on it: "Never give in before principles, never be vague before feelings."
After this summer camp, my mother Li Fang regarded Zhu EULAN SPA01 as a beacon to guide her family. She reads Ju Shuo Ji, which lives in EULAN SPA01, every day, and she will copy and recite Ju Shuo, You can have a bright life if you have a bright heart, and Ju Shuo, the essence of morality is to have someone else in your heart. Not only that, she often feeds back her reading experience in the WeChat group built by "Love Without Borders".
She and her husband traveled all over the country to participate in the "lecture hall" of the residence. For the first time, each person paid 4,800 yuan, and later several hundred yuan each time. In "Lecture Hall", Ju conveyed his educational philosophy and told a "successful" case. In addition to family relations, he also talked about various topics such as workplace relations.
Ju mentioned in a speech that "it is unlucky to have four toilets in a house". Li Fang thinks there are only four toilets in his house, so he doesn't know whether to sell it.
Whenever there is a problem, Li Fang will say, "Do you want to call Giant?" She thinks that EULAN SPA01's vision is "diabolical", and points out that the main problem at home is doting on children, and every time she replies to the message, she "can calm us down and point us in the right direction when we panic".
For a long time, Fang Li couldn't accept that her daughter was bipolar. She and her husband are both doctors, but in her opinion, there is nothing wrong with her daughter except physical symptoms such as dizziness and anorexia.
Li Fang believes that the diagnosis of psychiatry is not scientific, because "there are hard indicators for the diagnosis of other diseases, but psychiatry depends on the doctor's own views and experience to judge". She also doesn't recognize the treatment methods and drugs prescribed by doctors, because "drugs can't change a person's thinking, and there are many side effects".
She began to seek the help of outside professional doctors, frequently participated in various types of parent wisdom classes and lectures, and went to Foshan, Guangdong and Hangzhou, Zhejiang. However, she felt that these activities had no effect. "They just made our parents feel guilty, but they didn't tell us what to do."
On October 20 18 1 month, under the introduction of a friend, I heard about Juhe's Love Without Borders for the first time. A friend said that he was "full of energy and had a set of skills in treating children's mental illness".
In May of that year, Li Fang and her husband participated in the "Sharing Meeting" of "Love Without Borders" in Wuhan Teahouse. A teacher named "Su Hong" told more than 20 parents present that it was necessary to distinguish between "feelings and principles" and "punish" disobedient children. This is the traditional family style in China, and it is also the principle that parents do not admit defeat.
Later, they talked to Zhu EULAN SPA01 alone and asked him how to ease the relationship with his daughter. Ju's suggestion is, "cut off Su Xing's source of life and let her go home."
Li Fang said, as the residence said, they stopped giving Su Xing living expenses. Soon after, Su Xing really moved back home. This made Li Fang feel that Zhu Youlan was very capable. She decided to sign up her daughter for a study camp so that Zhu EULAN SPA01 could receive more in-depth consultation.
Su Xing's family is accepting the "link" of Ju. Photo courtesy of respondents
After in-depth contact with Ju, Li Fang thinks that his family relationship has also improved. "At least my daughter stopped scolding us." "Even if we don't give her living expenses, a person can support himself in Wuhan."
However, Su Xing felt that the gap with his parents had not been bridged, but was getting bigger and bigger.
Before, my father hardly used violence against Su Xing, but after coming home from the study camp, Su Xing was beaten twice by his father. Su Xing's hand was broken for the first time. Not long after the plaster was put on, he had another conflict with his father, and the plaster was broken all over the floor.
Recalling these two conflicts, Li Fang told the Beijing News reporter, "It is because we are too impatient to implement the' punishment' in place."
Trust parents
Wang Meng, 24, changed her family relationship after attending the "Love Without Borders" learning camp.
When her parents stopped giving her living expenses, she moved out of the house and gradually lost contact with her parents. "But the Juhui used this as a propaganda means, saying that after the adjustment there, all the children went out of their homes and stood on their own feet," Wang Meng said.
Wang Meng was diagnosed with depression in high school and then dropped out of school. Last summer, she was taken to a learning camp in Inner Mongolia by her parents in the name of tourism. In the camp, Wang Meng was called "unruly" because of disobedience, and was repeatedly hit on the buttocks and calves by rulers and wooden sticks.
The family of Zhang Ting, a depressed patient, also received "training" in EULAN SPA01.
Zhang Ting's mother recalled that it was introduced that living in EULAN SPA01 was the most powerful person at present. As long as he meets him, he can understand each other's hearts and remove weeds from each other's hearts. "At that time, my daughter was in a trough, and I thought it would be great to meet such a person."
In the conversation between Zhang Ting's family and Ju, Ju said that he never recognized a psychiatrist. Psychologists' things are all western-style, that is, people sit in the right position. Actually, every child is not sick. In order to support this view, he also cited his own example, saying that he had been diagnosed by a psychologist and suffered from more than a dozen mental diseases.
"This made my parents particularly convinced him, because my mother never wanted to admit that I was sick and was particularly disgusted with the statement of depression." Zhang Ting said, as long as the psychological doctor is mentioned, Ju jumped up with anger, as if he had been poked at a sensitive point.
In the "Great Love Without Borders" organization, some staff members have passed the certificate of psychological consultation, and EULAN SPA01 will emphasize that it is not allowed to use the same set of psychologists to treat children.
In the study camp, Zhang Ting's parents took Ju EULAN SPA01 as their life mentor. On the day of farewell, Zhang Ting's mother cried in front of Teacher Ju. However, after leaving the camp, she and her husband reported that the camp didn't help them much. "He certainly helped some families, but he is not a god."
Zhang Ting's family never contacted EULAN SPA01 again. "In addition to the general effect, our family is really not suitable. The cost is too expensive. This is a game for the rich. "
According to the materials provided by Zhang Ting's mother, there are five kinds of services provided by Love Without Borders, the price ranges from 30,000 yuan to 1 .20 thousand yuan, and the shortest service period is1month, and the longest is indefinite. Each project includes telephone or voice consultation and face-to-face counseling at different times, and the minimum cost of the study camp is 90 thousand yuan.
Zhang Ting's parents are both middle school teachers. She said that most of the parents who participated in the study camp with them were above the middle class, including many university professors and corporate executives.
In fact, like Li Fang, there are not a few parents who believe in Ju EULAN SPA01. Many parents wrote feedback articles on the official account of "Love Without Borders" WeChat. In the article, the children who dropped out of school returned to school, and the depressed children regained their vitality, all of which was attributed to Ju EULAN SPA01. They call Giant "Iron Man, Chivalrous Man, Inhumane, Soul Ferry, Exorcist".
An indelible shadow
But recently, Su Xing and Wang Meng discovered that the "perfect man" in their parents' eyes had been in prison for pyramid selling.
According to Xinhuanet, in September 2007, Liaoning Province reported the top ten pyramid schemes, and Ju Zhiguo was one of the people involved. According to the circular, on June 5438+065438+ 10, 2006, the suspect Lu Jiagang and the suspect Ju Zhiguo and others established Dalian Shang Ling Science and Technology Development Co., Ltd. in Dalian to engage in pyramid selling activities such as drinking fountains and health products. Fushun Qingyuan area has more than 50 people offline/kloc-0, and the illegal business amount is more than 800,000 yuan. Subsequently, Ju Zhiguo was arrested and brought to justice.
On May 1, in an interview with the Beijing News reporter, Ju EULAN SPA01 admitted that he was the "ruling the country" in the case. "I changed my name because there is such a history in the country of wisdom, and in the process of coaching entrepreneurs, there will be competition between enterprises, and many people will attack me with this."
After he was released from prison, he began to do "family education" in EULAN SPA01. His original intention is to "see many successful people and children of Kochi families fail in education and can't get happiness", and his daughter has been educated to become a teacher with successful educational experience and life experience, and can become a "Don Quixote figure" to save these families. "We are a big family, all the children are my children, and I am their father."
But for Su Xing, the "punishment" of the learning camp left an indelible shadow in her heart.
Over the years, she dreamed that she was beaten by Zhu and her father with a ruler. I also dreamed that I went to the school that Zhu Youlan wanted her to go to. In my dream, I sat in the classroom, very timid, and only looked at the book blankly.
The symptoms of bipolar disorder have not been alleviated. Su Xing is often very excited and depressed, and her mood changes quickly, so she can't eat anything. Sometimes when people around her talk to Su Xing, she just habitually nods or shakes her head, or simply pretends not to hear, and "especially doesn't want to talk".
After returning home, my parents occasionally invite Su Xing to meet "Ju Da". Last May, Su Xing met EULAN SPA01 once in Wuhan. She was a little scared and called her dopted mother. At that meeting, Ju EULAN SPA01 told Su Xing that she wanted her to go to school, and she had a way to help her get her diploma, as long as she gave him hundreds of thousands.
After the meeting, Su Xing's godmother called Li Fang and said, "It's up to you to educate your children. It is not reliable to spend so much money to invite others. " But Li Fang was able to shrug off, she thought, this is because the child's dopted mother "didn't know enough about Ju EULAN SPA01".
Su Xing felt that everything in the family seemed to be under Zhu's control, and every detail was supported by him. Su Xing was frightened by his parents' enthusiasm for bow "like a cult".
So, Su Xing began to post on the Internet, telling her experiences in the study camp. Many children have posted it. Most of them have mental illness such as depression. They joined the learning camp under the coaxing of their parents, and were asked to stop taking medicine, and were subjected to verbal abuse, handcuffs, slap in the face and other different degrees of violence.
Su Xing, Wang Meng and others set up rights groups. They collected audio and video recordings of being beaten while living in a learning camp, kept posting posts in Zhihu and Weibo, and sent emails to the Ministry of Education to supervise and report the case.
/kloc-Fan Ko, 0/5 years old, also joined in. He dropped out of school because he was addicted to games, and his parents took him to this year's Yancheng research camp. /kloc-One morning in May, 2000, while his father was sleeping, Fan Ko sneaked out of the bathroom window of the learning camp and reported to the police. The police finished the record, because Fan Ko was a minor, and he asked his parents to take him back.
On the afternoon of May 6, the police of Yandong Police Station in Yancheng told the Beijing News reporter that on May 2, they received an alarm from a minor, saying that "Love Without Borders" was an "MLM organization" and had launched an investigation into the case.
The injured child also questioned the qualification of "Love Without Borders". On May 6th, a staff member of Yancheng tinghu district Education Bureau replied to the Beijing News reporter, saying that from the school scope of "Love Without Borders", it does not belong to the teaching of Chinese, mathematics and other disciplines, nor is it within the jurisdiction of the Education Bureau, and only needs the approval of the market supervision department to carry out business.
At present, the "Great Love Without Borders" Yancheng Study Camp has been closed ahead of schedule. The screenshot sent by Van Gogh shows that in the "boundless love" Jiangxi group, a staff member said: "We are now in collective silence and will not accept the consultation of new families for the time being."
After coming out of the police station, at Fan Ko's strong request, his parents decided to take him back to his hometown in Jiangxi.
Before leaving the learning camp, he was asked to write a "description" and admitted that calling the police was a slander against Zhu Youlan and all the members. At the end of the "explanation", Fan Ko made a promise: "Stop slandering teachers and all members, treat parents correctly, go to school well, eat and sleep on time, and do your own thing well."
(Except for Ju, the interviewees in this article are all pseudonyms. )
Beijing News reporter Zhou Xiaoqi Intern Kong Ningjing