Why did you break up? Why is there pressure to be nice to women?
My son is only six years old, and my mother has a house and a car, which shows that the conditions are very good and there will be some monopoly. It's hard to accept his stepfather unless you give him a lot of time to impress his family. If the woman remarries economically, even if it is difficult for the children to accept it, the main contradiction is money, so the problem can be solved.
You should back off. Maybe people still have feelings for you. I just think it's too fast, which makes her feel cruel and scared. There must be opposition around her, so she probably thinks it's right. After all, you are not the right person.
And she told you to pay attention to your career, probably because she is more concerned about the economy.
And a house and a car, all bought by her parents. Or the ex-husband's, in whose name, whether to repay the loan.
Are parents strong? These are all problems.
You are divorced and have no children. She already has children. If it's for children, there should be no more children. Obviously unfair to you. If she is really a good girl, she should also let go. Maybe you have more problems with her. Women need to look up.