From the perspective of personality, how to understand the psychology of "looking at the old at three years old and looking at the old at seven years old"?

Everyone knows that there are multiple influences, such as genes, brain structure and acquired educational environment, but in fact, the core of this is congenital factors. The acquired influence is to strengthen or weaken the innate characteristics. For example:

There are a pair of identical twins in Britain, whose genes are almost the same (the genes in the nucleus are exactly the same, but the genes in the cytoplasm may be slightly different). According to genetic determinism, they should have very close personalities, but it is observed that the twins have diametrically opposite personalities: the elder brother is cheerful, likes adventure and excitement, and likes toys such as rockets and tanks best; My brother is introverted and likes to be quiet. He spends most of his time sitting in the corner reading. Why on earth is this?

I found that my brother and brother have different brain structures and different faces. Compared with the younger brother, the elder brother's chin is wider and more masculine, which shows that the hormones secreted by twins are different.

Because of this, their parents also have subtle differences when communicating with twins. Dad is gentle with his brother and tough with his brother, which indirectly strengthens his "weak" character and his "tough" character.

Therefore, personality is innate and will continue to strengthen or weaken your personality traits the day after tomorrow.

On the other hand, from the perspective of big five personality, personality is divided into five latitudes, here is just a brief introduction:

1. Happy (easygoing, compassionate and helpful)

2. Stability (emotional stability is easy or not easy)

3. Openness (conservative or thinking jump, flexible innovation)

4. Extrovert (introversion, extroversion)

5. Sense of responsibility (the ability to finish the task on time and completely as planned)

These five latitudes, from 0 to 100, are different for children.

It's different.

But with the increase of age, the scores will gradually get closer, that is to say, the low scores will increase relatively and the high scores will decrease relatively. But on the whole, it won't change much, unless this person has a particularly serious accident, which has a great impact on him. For example, under normal circumstances, if a child's agreeableness is 80 points, which belongs to high agreeableness, then with his growth, this score will drop a little, for example, to 75 points, but it is unlikely to become 40 or 30 points.

Therefore, although personality is not invariable with age, it is basically the same. This child was born with this personality when he was a child, and it is mostly based on this personality structure when he grows up.

As the old saying goes, you are old at the age of three and old at the age of seven. This is a long-term experience and these proverbs have been put into practice. There are some commonalities, but there are also some basic reasons.

There is some truth in these two age limits, and different theories abroad are also playing a supporting role. For example, Freud's personality development theory can be summarized as: oral sex (0- 1) anal sex (1-3) sexual organ (3-6) incubation period (7- adolescence), so I won't go into details later. Judging from these periods, these two ages are children.

Jung's theory of personality development is divided into introversion and extroversion. At this age, you can probably see the development of children. I can't say a word or two [cover my face]. If you are interested, you can look up these two theories, hoping to help you.

The old saying "from three years old, seven years old" embodies the influence of family factors on personality and the stability of personality characteristics.

The direct meaning of "caring for the elderly at the age of 3, caring for the elderly at the age of 7" can be understood as follows: from the personality or psychological state of the child at the age of 3, we can see the personality characteristics or psychological performance of the child during adolescence or even after, and from the behavioral performance of the child at the age of 7, we can see the achievements of the child after middle age. It seems absurd, but there is a scientific basis for "seeing the old at 3 years old and seeing the old at 7 years old". Research shows that 3 years old is an important period of brain development and a key period of children's personality formation and ability training.

In order to prove the importance of playing at the age of three in a person's life, Casbi, a professor at the Institute of Psychiatry in London, and 1980, a psychiatrist at King's College London, made an experimental observation on local 1000 3-year-old children.

After investigation and analysis, it can be divided into five types: self-confidence, adaptability, silence, self-restraint and fidgeting. In 2003, when these children grew into 26-year-old adults, Professor Casbi paid a return visit to them. At the end of the interview, it was concluded that the words and deeds of these 3-year-old children accurately predicted their adult character. Professor Casbi delivered a speech in 2005, which caused a sensation in the international parenting circle and provided a strong scientific basis for the saying that "three-year-olds look after their old age".

This also reflects the stability of personality characteristics. A study published in the journal National Academy of Sciences found that children with poor self-control ability at the age of three are more likely to have health and financial problems and even criminal records when they grow up to 32 years old. The Daily Mail reported that researchers at the University of Edinburgh found that children's math and reading skills at the age of seven will affect their future career success.

The cultivation of good character and habits of 3-year-old children can not be separated from good family education. Reflect the influence of family factors on personality.

Therefore, we should attach importance to preschool education, especially family education. Parents should create a healthy and happy family environment, pay attention to words and deeds, set an example, attach importance to parent-child companionship, advocate happy education, and strengthen children's concentration and social training.

China people say that "at the age of three, you are old at the age of seven", which makes sense. Generally speaking, our character is basically formed in childhood. Childhood experience determines our attitude and behavior pattern towards the world.

For most people, the main nurturers of childhood are parents, so the relationship between children and parents, especially their mothers, largely determines our character.

For example, a child who has not been taken good care of by his mother since childhood will have a crisis of trust in the outside world and feel neglected and unloved, which will affect the formation of self-esteem. In order to pursue equality and attention, they may try to surpass others through competition to seek superiority and gain self-esteem. This lifestyle will continue into adulthood. Of course, for a child who lacks love, he may feel neglected since he was a child, and he will feel more inferior, shrink back, be unwilling to cooperate with others, and even show that he has given up.

Neglect may lead to children's cognitive behavior deviation, and so does doting. Children who grow up without any constraints often form the cognition that "Laozi is the best in the world". When they leave their parents one day and can't cope with setbacks, they may have strong discomfort, pain and powerlessness. In order to dispel this discomfort, he will make enemies with people around him who don't follow his wishes and those who don't unite with him. Not only that, he also wants to surpass these people and become a conqueror and ruler, because he can regain his sense of control-this is actually a change from narcissism to conditional self-esteem. So you will find that inferiority and narcissism, two seemingly contradictory qualities, are often manifested in one person.

In fact, in today's more and more only children, I think that emphasizing unprincipled doting has a more serious negative impact on children than ignoring it. Nowadays, many families are in the "6+ 1" mode, that is, four elderly people plus a couple, and six adults with a child. Adult parents may overcompensate their children because they were not taken good care of when they were young, and so do grandparents. In this way, the possibility of children being spoiled is much higher than that of being ignored.

In addition, many parents' doting on their children may stem from their misunderstanding of "unconditional love" and "doting". Unconditional love means that I love you only because of you, so this kind of love is conducive to children's sense of security and belonging, and then form a good self-esteem. They do not rely on external standards to judge their own quality, but also know how to pay attention to the needs of others. But unconditional love does not mean unconditional satisfaction. Unconditional satisfaction is doting, which will lead children to become self-centered, unable to cooperate, difficult to understand others, and unable to face setbacks and failures correctly.

Let me talk about my personal views on this issue.

& gt& gt& gt& gt Look at the old at the age of three, and look at the old at the age of seven. It is a common saying handed down from ancient folk, many of which contain feudal remnants, and naturally cannot stand scientific scrutiny and practical verification.

& gt& gt& gt& gt First, there is a contradiction with the conflicting statement that "there is no old or young on the road to the grave". From birth to death, who can be sure that today is alive and tomorrow is left? Is it possible? Fallacy!

& gt& gt& gt& gt Secondly, there is a contradiction with the famous philosophical sentence in the real version: "There are unexpected events in the sky, and people are doomed." At the age of three, it is said that he may be the future emperor, but in a blink of an eye, his days are broken. Isn't there going to be no candidate for emperor in the future? That's bullshit！

& gt& gt& gt& gt The third era is different, and people accept new things differently. Far from saying, in today's high-tech era, babies enjoy high technology from conception to birth. Can a three-year-old child embark on a career in the future? A 7-year-old child, dare you say that he can enjoy ministerial treatment when he is old? Bored to death!

& gt& gt& gt& gt Life happens naturally, and everything goes with the flow is the hard core. If the fortune teller can figure out that pork prices will skyrocket tomorrow, don't worry, he will go back to his hometown overnight and raise pigs.