Hidden in your mentality is the Feng Shui of a lifetime!
1. Don’t care about it, the world will be forgiving
There is such a short story in "Who Moved My Cheese".
Charlie Jones works hard, and the most glorious thing in his career is the successful broadcast of the track and field events of the last Olympic Games.
He thought that the glory would last forever, but suddenly one day, his boss told him that in the broadcasting work of the next Olympic Games, he would no longer be in charge of track and field events, but instead would be in charge of swimming and diving.
After learning the news, Charlie Jones was stunned, because broadcasting swimming and diving events was a completely unfamiliar field for him.
He was very upset and frustrated, thinking that his boss did not understand him and did not value him.
Under the psychological suggestion of "someone moved my cheese", he resented everything around him and was very passive and lazy towards work.
It was not until later that he heard the story of "Who touched my cheese" that he put aside his ridiculous prejudices and did not care about the boss "touching his own cheese", but actively devoted himself to his work. , seriously pondering the relevant knowledge of swimming and diving.
As for the boss, seeing that he was so energetic, he assigned him more tasks that could reflect his personal abilities and expertise.
Charlie Jones grew rapidly through various exercises and was elected as one of the best announcers in the "Professional Football Hall of Fame".
Unlike Charlie Jones, who went from "care about" to "not care about", Guo Ziyi, a military strategist in the Tang Dynasty, did not care about anything from beginning to end.
While he was going all out to quell the Anshi Rebellion, the eunuch Yu Chaoen was always making trouble behind his back. First he spoke ill of him in front of the emperor, and later he encouraged the emperor to dig up his family's ancestral graves.
Ordinarily, since Yu Chaoen did this, Guo Ziyi should have fought back, but he didn't.
After the rebellion was put down, Guo Ziyi returned to the capital. The emperor apologized and handed Yu Chaoen over to him for his disposal.
However, Guo Ziyi magnanimously let go of the blame. He said: "When it comes to digging up people's ancestral graves, I have dug the most during these years of fighting abroad. Now that my ancestral graves are being dug up, this is God's fault." I can't blame anyone for punishing me."
Yu Chaoen was very moved by what he said, and he never felt sorry for Guo Ziyi again.
After Guo Ziyi's death, Yu Chaoen held great power, but he never harmed Guo Ziyi's family, and instead protected them very well.
As the saying goes: "The size of the belly is the size of the heart."
People who care about others think that everything in the world is against them.
It’s raining, and he thinks that God wants to get him wet on purpose, but he doesn’t know that the streets need to be cleaned, the plants need to be irrigated, and the people need coolness. This rain comes for all of this;
Being ignored by a friend, he or she feels that his friend has changed his mind, but he does not expect that his friend also has his own troubles and needs space to dump the garbage in his heart;
His career has suffered a setback, and he feels that his boss has not paid enough attention to it. However, in fact, the boss has already given me all his help and supported me in every way.
On the other hand, those who don’t care about others are just the opposite.
When dealing with people in the world, they observe others' difficulties, forgive others' sufferings, and tolerate others' mistakes. Over time, they build up a reputation for themselves and gain popularity, so that birds are singing and flowers are fragrant everywhere;
In their self-growth, they do not stop at temporary gains, nor focus on the current lack. Instead, they climb high and look far, locking in a larger city, so that they can achieve success step by step.
As the founding marshal Zhu De said: "The world is wide in the belly, and there are always boats to ferry people."
Those who don't care will have a broad world.
2. Don’t compare, happiness will come
Liang Wendao once said: "Happiness never compares. If you compare with others, you will only feel that your situation is miserable."
Indeed.
There is such a story.
There is a person who has worked hard for half his life, but has been living a miserable life. He went to ask the wise man for advice: "I have been pursuing happiness, but why do I always get pain?"
The wise man asked him to tell him how to pursue happiness.
He told his experience:
"When I lived in a small town, I tried to make myself the happiest person in the town; when I moved to In a small town, I worked hard to become the happiest person in the small town;
Later, when I settled in a big city, I set a goal again, that is, to become the happiest person in the city. . In this way, I have been running for happiness, but happiness has been running away from me."
We may all have such moments in life:
I saw someone buying a duplex villa, and I gritted my teeth and wanted to build a single-door villa;
I heard that my friend’s company was listed, and I immediately started preparing to apply for an independent office;
When I learned that my classmate’s child had gone abroad, I turned around and rushed to sign up for various training classes...
In this way, after comparing the two, they secretly became more energetic and must not fall behind others. Only when you are under others will you be willing to give up.
But actually, so what if you win? What you gain is just a false sense of superiority, but what you lose is the perception of happiness.
The Indian philosophy master Osho once said: "A rose is a rose, and a lotus is a lotus. Just look at it, don't compare."
Song Lian, the founding civil servant of the Ming Dynasty, had a very poor family background. When he was studying, he could only live in a very simple school building.
Every day, his classmates dressed up and looked handsome, which made his old clothes and shabby shoes look extremely shabby.
What’s even more sad is that for their daily meals, others eat fresh and delicious food, but for him, he always has a bowl of gruel that can reflect people’s shadows, and sometimes even the gruel I can't even eat. I can only eat two meals a day.
Someone asked him out of good intentions: "Aren't you inferior?"
His answer was neither humble nor arrogant: "I don't compare myself with others. I am happy if I can learn knowledge. What I wear is not something I should care about. "
A person with a normal heart never compares himself with others, because he knows that he lives his own life, the so-called happiness and sorrow, Gains and losses, successes and failures will not be factors that interfere with his happiness.
Everyone has their own "flowering period" and their own "time zone". The spring breeze may be glorious at this time, but it may be windy and rainy at that time; or, today is full of thorns, but tomorrow, the weather will be clear and clear.
Because there is no flower that never blooms, and there is no flower that only blooms forever.
Happiness in life, in the final analysis, has nothing to do with anyone but your own inner satisfaction. Comparing yourself with others will only lead to dissatisfaction and misfortune; if you don't compare yourself with others, happiness will come uninvited.
3. A philosopher said: "Your mentality is your real master."
A great man also said: "Either you control life, or life controls you." Your mentality determines who is the mount and who is the jockey. "
Whether a person is happy or unhappy in this life is not judged by others or judged from the surface, but by " mentality" to define.
If you worry less, don’t stick to the present, and don’t criticize people too harshly, you will be able to stand tall, see far, and walk as wide as the world;
Compare less and don’t despise yourself. , without envying others, you can receive gifts, gain harvests, and live a long and happy life.
In this way, you can cultivate a normal mind and enjoy wealth and luck.