In "The Mansion Gate", Jing Qi marries Xiang Xiutu. Is she young or in love? Just because Master Qi has another hidden thought

Mentioning "Mansion Gate" cannot avoid the scene where Bai Jingqi marries 28-year-old Xiangxiu at the age of 60. Yang Jiuhong said, "My father, please show some respect, she can be your granddaughter." Bai Jingqi criticized If she marries an older person, is she marrying her mother or her daughter-in-law?

Did Bai Jingqi really marry Xiangxiu to keep her young? Still love her?

No, Bai Jingqi had some thoughts that he never told anyone, and Yang Jiuhong and Xiang Xiu didn't even know Bai Jingqi's true intentions until their death.

Let’s analyze it bit by bit.

If Xiangxiu didn't love Bai Jingqi, she would be smart enough not to let herself become an old girl without getting married at the age of 28. If she wanted to leave and get married, the second mistress would agree.

And I have to say that Xiangxiu used tricks to marry Bai Jingqi.

Xiang Xiu first had a physical relationship with Qi Ye. At that time, the unmarried Xiang Xiu could be said to be in dire straits.

Then she cared about Sophora japonica and instigated the relationship between Sophora japonica and Yang Jiuhong. Yang Jiuhong and Sophora japonica fought in the house. She killed two birds with one stone and killed Sophora japonica, making Yang Jiuhong fall out of favor.

After she cleared away the women around Bai Jingqi, she asked Bai Jingqi to marry her as his wife.

In order to marry Bai Jingqi, she secretly took birth control pills countless times.

When a smart girl does this, besides love, she wants to marry a wealthy family.

But Xiangxiu is actually the one who has been with Bai Jingqi all his life. Some people say that a long-lasting love confession is companionship, but Xiangxiu still has a lot of love.

Bai Jingqi’s love was only given to Huang Chun. He fell in love with Yang Jiuhong, but Yang Jiuhong fell in love. He married out of responsibility and morality. He liked Yang Jiuhong, but love could not be discussed. .

Sophora japonica was given to him by the old lady. He could not refuse the warm fragrance of nephrite and there was no need to refuse. He may not even like sophora japonica as much as Yang Jiuhong, but in Master Qi’s heart, sophora japonica is more important. She is a bed warmer and a maid.

So Qiye fell in love with Xiangxiu?

1. First acquaintance

The innocent and childlike beautiful girl Xiangxiu caught Bai Jingqi’s attention and curiosity. This girl is just different.

2. Secretly together

Yang Jiuhong is smart, but her smartness has limitations. She went to get medicine for the Bai family, and she had to take Sophora japonica with her all the way. , in order to prevent Bai Jingqi and Huaihua from being affectionate while she was not at home, but she underestimated the man or underestimated Bai Jingqi's bad nature. It is unclear whether Xiangxiu intended it or Bai Jingqi needed it. So that Xiangxiu was sent into Bai Jingqi's arms.

Xiangxiu loves Bai Jingqi, otherwise with Xiangxiu’s intelligence she would not give in vain, because of love.

But Bai Qiye knows it very well. He is so smart. How can he not understand the thoughts of a little girl? He understands, but at this time, Qiye has no intention of marrying Xiangxiu, and even Bai Jingqi never even thought about closing the house.

It is precisely because Xiangxiu knows Bai Qiye's attitude that she has been taking birth control pills.

At this time, Bai Jingqi was in love with Xiangxiu for his body and not his heart. Otherwise, he would have understood. How could he not consider Xiangxiu's pregnancy at such an age? How could he bear to have him secretly eat it again and again? After taking birth control pills, there is no love or not enough love.

Although there is no love, Bai Jingqi likes Xiangxiu at this time.

3. Emotional advancement

Since Xiangxiu and Bai Jingqi had a substantial relationship, Xiangxiu began to plan for her future. This is understandable and human, so there is The conflicts between her and Yang Jiuhong, and her seemingly righteous love for Sophora japonica.

She was somewhat responsible for Sophora japonica's death, but she was not the only one who instigated Sophora japonica to fight against Yang Jiuhong.

When Huaihua returned to her room after being humiliated, her best friend Xiangxiu did not comfort her, which was unreasonable. If she had comforted her, she might have saved Huaihua in time, but she did not comfort her and allowed the situation to develop.

Bai Jingqi felt guilty for the death of Sophora japonica, and put all the responsibility on Yang Jiuhong, and since then he has become farther and farther away from Yang Jiuhong.

At this time, there was only Xiangxiu left beside Bai Jingqi.

From daily life to nephrite Wenxiang, Xiangxiu is the only one left. Some people say that if you want a man to be inseparable from you, a woman must integrate herself into a man’s life. Xiangxiu has done a great job good.

At this time, Bai Jingqi relied on Xiangxiu's comprehensive care, and he was tempted to take over Xiangxiu's house.

Throughout this journey, Bai Jingqi has admired, liked and relied on Xiangxiu. These emotions are not love. He wants to take her in as his wife, but he does not want to marry her as his wife.

This is really not true. Who is Bai Jingqi? Is he being forced and manipulated? If he doesn't want to marry Xiangxiu, can she force him to succeed?

No.

Therefore, it is his sincere wish for Bai Jingqi to marry Xiangxiu.

As mentioned above, Bai Jingqi did not love Xiangxiu, so did he marry Xiangxiu really because Xiangxiu was young?

Youth is a kind of capital, but for Bai Qiye, if he is only young for her, he has the ability to get someone younger. If Bai Jingqi married Xiangxiu, it wasn’t because Tu Xiangxiu was young.

Is it because he relies on Xiangxiu's care? No, just imagine if Bai Jingqi doesn't marry Xiangxiu as his wife, but just wants her to be considerate and take care of her, he can just take her in.

Don’t say that Xiangxiu disagrees with being a child. Xiangxiu is no longer an innocent girl at this time, and she is 28 years old. Can she marry into a good family? If Bai Jingqi does not agree to marry her as his wife, Although she was unwilling to insist on letting her be a child, she had no choice but to cry.

Some people say that a woman is the feng shui of a family, and the second grandma is the good feng shui of the Bai family. It is because of the second grandma that the Bai family can prosper.

In fact, a large family is similar to a harem. The head of the family is either a queen or a queen mother, who is able to accommodate others, has a foundation, and has means. Naturally, the harem will be peaceful and the heirs will be prosperous. If the harem is not upright, like a flying swallow with virtue, Don't even think about living in peace. If a family is caught in internal strife, it will naturally fail!

The Bai family did not have a matron after the second grandmother passed away.

The Bai family really lacks a matron at this time.

When Xiangxiu used aggressive tactics to provoke Bai Jingqi into marrying her, Bai Jingqi said, "I don't want to do this, so don't force me."

Then Bai Jingqi lit a cigarette and he thought for a while before agreeing.

Why, because Bai Jingqi is so smart, he thought about it carefully and figured out that he married for the Bai family.

The Bai family needs a matron, and Bai Jingqi thinks Xiangxiu has a suitable temperament.

He used the title of wife to let Xiangxiu plan and support the Bai family wholeheartedly, and used the title of wife to let Xiangxiu be used by the Bai family and contribute to the Bai family. This is the true reason why Bai Jingqi married Xiangxiu. reason.

Xiangxiu is smart and capable of running the house. Xiangxiu is honest and scheming in dealing with others. She is calm and courageous when faced with problems. The Bai family has not been able to choose a more suitable person than Xiangxiu.

The old lady did not recognize Yang Jiuhong even before she died. The main reason was that she did not want Yang Jiuhong to be the head of the family. Yang Jiuhong was immersed in love and hate. She was smart but not high-ranking. She could support the Bai family compound, but the Bai family There will be problems with the direction of the compound. Japan's problems will be handed over if Yang Jiuhong is in charge, but Xiangxiu does not.

From this point of view, Xiangxiu is suitable to take up the affairs of the Bai family's backyard.

In fact, Xiangxiu did live up to Bai Jingqi's vision. Not only did she take care of various things in the Bai family, she also stayed with Bai Jingqi until he grew old.

Bai Jingqi is indeed a successful businessman. Marrying Xiangxiu is one of his successes. It is a good deal for him, but not necessarily for Xiangxiu.

Bai Jingqi has good intentions, but Xiang Xiubai is too busy. She really loves Bai Jingqi, but due to her own conditions and the fact that she takes too many birth control pills and cannot have children, it is difficult for her to gain a foothold in the Bai family, and her adopted son is also distracted from her.

Bai Jingqi is so smart, using the title of wife to make Xiangxiu devote her whole life to the Bai family.

This is the true nature of Bai Jingqi as a successful businessman. He has ulterior motives for marrying Xiang Xiu. If he marries the right one, he can make huge profits.

Because of her love, Xiangxiu never complained even if she ended up alone until her death.

But in the end, she didn’t know the real reason why Bai Jingqi married her.

1. Don’t force yourself if you don’t belong to the right family, don’t force yourself into someone who doesn’t belong to your own circle

Xiangxiu worked hard to marry into a wealthy family and became the wife of a wealthy family. She was deeply attracted by Bai Qi Ye believed that Xiangxiu's fate had successfully counterattacked.

Is this kind of marriage with the wrong family happy?

When Xiangxiu was sneaking around with Qi Ye, she took a lot of birth control pills, which caused her to be unable to get pregnant. A woman cannot be a mother and cannot have her own children. This is a misfortune. This kind of effort is worth it. Should it?

Bai Jingqi married her at the age of 60. Xiangxiu will definitely be alone for the rest of her life. Is the loneliness of old age worth the short-lived glory?

With Xiangxiu’s youth, beauty, and intelligence, if she didn’t want to marry into a rich family, she would have someone she loved and children of her own. Although she was from a small family, she would be enough to But there is warmth in having children and a husband.

After Xiangxiu married Bai Jingqi, she changed her previous domineering attitude and treated the Bai family with all her heart. She wanted to work hard to integrate into the Bai family's circle.

When Bai Jingqi was alive, the Bai family was pretty good to her. Once she left Bai Jingqi, her hardened circle would not accept her.

When Bai Jingye kicked her out, no Bai family member spoke for her.

Being well-matched is the wisdom of marriage left down by our ancestors, and future generations should learn from it.

In a circle that you cannot fit into, it is okay and brave to try appropriately, and it is understandable to work hard for your own happiness, but it is recommended not to refresh the bottom line again and again, and not to be too tough, as it will wrong yourself.

2. Marriage is a matter of course. Any means used in it will desecrate the marriage and will reap the consequences.

From the moment Xiangxiu secretly married Bai Jingqi, she had a deliberate plan. Marrying Bai Jingqi and quarreling with Yang Jiuhong, she was testing the bottom line between Yang Jiuhong and Bai Jingqi. She killed two birds with one stone and defeated Yang Jiuhong. Later, she also used provocation to get Bai Jingqi to marry her, although Bai Jingqi did not marry her because he fell into her provocation. , but it can be said that she worked step by step to succeed and rise to the top.

A marriage obtained in this way is always a happy one. A marriage that comes naturally is different. It lacks a bit of love.

Has Xiangxiu’s successful marriage led to a happy marriage?

The Bai family's noisy family affairs, the declining days, the slowly aging and then confused Bai Jingqi, the relationship between Xiangxiu and his adopted son broke down, and the adopted son Li Tianyi ran away from the mansion to be with his biological mother, brother and sister-in-law. In life, Xiangxiu finally had to die alone.

After Yang Jiuhong passed away, Bai Jingqi was still buried, and as for Xiang Xiu, his adopted son might come back.

It can be speculated that Xiangxiu was not as good as Yang Jiuhong in his later years.

3. Having no children is a lack of marriage and a regret in a woman’s life

Xiangxiu is short of a son in the Bai family. If Xiangxiu has a son, she can only be in the Bai family. It's true that Bai Jingye doesn't dare to chase her out no matter how hard he works, so that she can gain a firm foothold in the Bai family.

Her mistake was not having children.

Children are the bond of marriage, and not having children is the regret of marriage. Children are also the continuation of a woman’s life, and not having children is the regret of a woman’s life.

A joke about the ancients, but also a warning to life.