Why is the father's big pattern and mother's good mood the best feng shui for a family?
What kind of family children can have and what kind of environment they can grow up in depends on how family members construct and operate.
Some people say: Father is the pillar of a family and shoulders the responsibility of the whole family. And the mother is the pillar of a family, caring for the fate of the whole family.
Therefore, the pattern of a father will determine the height that the whole family can reach;
And a mother's tolerance will determine whether a family can be happy and harmonious.
The father's model determines the direction of the child's life.
We often say, what should a person have? Pattern? In order to succeed. Among them? Ge? Is it character? Bureau? It's vision and mind.
A person's personality, vision and mind not only determine how far he can go and how high he can stand on the road of life, but also affect his next generation.
A man without a pattern can never support a family.
I still remember that in the hit TV series "Everything is OK", there was a character Su Daqiang who made all the audience gnash their teeth.
As a husband, he avoided talking about all the big and small things at home, was cowardly and irresponsible, and put the responsibility of the family on his strong wife.
As a father, he is even less qualified.
The wife prefers boys to girls, so she is indifferent to her little daughter and will not even let her continue to go to school with excellent results.
But his father Su Daqiang didn't even say a word to be fair to his daughter.
In the process of children's growth, Su Daqiang was stingy, selfish and irresponsible, thinking only of himself and having no pattern at all.
When all his children grow up, he even sucks their blood.
He asked his children to do everything according to his wishes, otherwise they would cry, make trouble, hang themselves and threaten their lives at every turn.
Su Daqiang never understood that children also have their own difficulties and difficulties, but he created all kinds of demons and intentionally or unintentionally provoked the relationship between them, which brought trouble to the family several times.
Such a bad family background left a deep psychological shadow on the youngest daughter, and both the eldest brother and the second brother were pulled out by the father and his wife.
Father's role should be like the front of a train, but what about his? Pattern? Is the track, only the front of the car has been moving in the right direction along the track, can lead the family behind to a better and broader future.
Ye Shengtao once said, "There are four talented women in Jiuru Lane, and they are happy all their lives.".
These four talented women refer to Zhang Yuanhe, Zhang Yunhe, Zhang Zhaohe and Zhang Chonghe.
The reason why they are so gentle and dignified and have both ability and political integrity is also because of the cultivation of their father Zhang Wuling.
During the Republic of China, aristocratic families indulged in pleasure, and Zhang Wuling, who hated gambling, smoking and teetotalizing, was clearly seen by people? Aliens? .
Zhang Wuling not only loved books since childhood, but also was keen on running schools for public welfare when she grew up. His ten children are also full of poetry books.
When Zhang Wuling raised his daughters, he didn't want to train them into ladies who couldn't get out of the house, and the names he gave them were not kitsch. He also hopes that his children, whether boys or girls, should have broad eyes and broad minds.
Zhangjiasi sisters
Later, all his daughters found a good object to entrust them with for life, and his six sons were also outstanding, learning Chinese and Western, which made a story in China's modern history.
As the old saying goes:? Parents' beloved son has a far-reaching influence. ?
A father with a big picture will understand, what is the so-called? Far-reaching is not to make your children famous and rich, but to cultivate them into people with long-term vision, pure heart, integrity, courage and broad mind.
Mother's mood affects the temperature of the whole family.
Lai Peixia, a psychological counselor, once said in the speech "Why Happiness Is So Difficult": When your mother lives in sorrow and pain all her life, do you dare to be happy?
The answer is difficult.
It can be seen that if there is no gentle wife and warm mother at home, it will be a disaster for both husband and children.
In the hit drama In the Name of Family, Chen Ting is such a suffocating mother.
When she was young, she went out to play cards and locked her young daughter and son at home. Unexpectedly, my daughter got stuck in her throat when eating walnuts, and she was not rescued in time and died unfortunately.
As a mother, Chen Ting couldn't digest her inner remorse and blamed it on her husband and young son.
She is suspicious at home all day, violent and indifferent, either yelling at her husband that he doesn't care about his family, or beating and scolding his youngest son and hysterically talking about him? Kill my sister? .
Because of this emotionally unstable mother, the whole family has become a chicken feather.
If the mother at home is unstable and moody, the atmosphere at home will get worse and worse, and the children will become more fragile, sensitive and cautious.
In the end, these emotions will be branded in the children's bones and accompany them all their lives.
On the contrary, if the mother at home can be tolerant, gentle and sensible, the atmosphere at home will become warm.
Children who grow up in such a family will also become optimistic, confident, sunny and cheerful, and learn how to accept and love others.
Liu Jing in Little Joy, as a mother, left a deep impression on all the audience.
Liu Jing is gentle, but he also has his own unique strength.
Whenever there are differences and tensions between her husband and son, she can always tell her truth slowly, point out the crux of the problem, and solve all the contradictions in the family with wisdom.
Once, the husband was very angry with his son, and she comforted him gently. After all these years, your mother died, and you didn't catch up. It's not that your son is unfilial. ?
In short, success reminds her husband of her son's goodness.
In addition, she will listen to the troubles of every family member in the family, and then explain them attentively. This is not only a lubricant between husband and son, but also a heart that closely unites the family.
Liu Jing is not only gentle to his family, but also compassionate to strangers.
Once, she heard that a boy who was admitted to Tsinghua was forced by his parents to study a major he didn't like, and finally got severe depression and jumped off a building.
Other parents are saying:? Very irresponsible, very fragile, completely do not know how to consider their parents. ?
And she thinks: Normal people who are not afraid of death, if they are not afraid of death, they must live too painfully, right?
Under the influence of such a kind and gentle mother, his son Ji also grew up from a rebellious teenager and found his own way forward.
In a family, the mother's mood will directly affect the atmosphere among family members, and also play a decisive role in the formation of children's character.
As Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology in Taiwan Province, said: Mother is the soul of the family; If the mother is happy, the whole family will be happy; If mother is anxious, the whole family will be anxious.
Only when the mother is in a good mood can the husband and wife love each other, the family can be harmonious, and the children can thrive and eventually become great things.
Family harmony is the best feng shui.
After writing countless works and reading all the prosperity and misery in the world, Goethe, the writer, expressed the feeling that family harmony is the happiest, whether it is a king or a farmer.
As the saying goes, everything is prosperous at home.
A harmonious family is inseparable from an upright, kind and open-minded father and a gentle, virtuous and understanding mother.
With such parents, you can grow up in an environment full of joy and love.
Such a child must be the happiest person in the world.
The best feng shui of a family is the father's big pattern and the mother's good mood.