The best state of a family is to do three things well!
Home is always the most solid support for a person walking in society.
Why do you call home? Home is by no means a cold house, but a place that carries the warmth and warmth of a family and protects them to live and work in peace and contentment.
Wang Zengqi said: "The family is sitting around and the lights are bright."
The days when there is a home to return to and someone is waiting for you, even if it is ordinary and ordinary, is the life that a person most longs for.
Some people say that your home is what you are. This is true. If you want your family to be the foundation for you to move forward courageously, you must do these three things well.
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Be modest and tolerant, and tolerate with love
Everything will be prosperous if the family is harmonious.
For a family, the best state is to live in harmony. Even if there is no good food and clothing, daily laughter and laughter are the best comfort.
French philosopher Montaigne said:
A person who cannot be humble and tolerant to his family is destined to not be a complete person.
The combination of Yang Jiang and Qian Zhongshu was once called "the most beautiful love".
But in "The Three of Us" written by Yang Jiang, what we see is an ordinary and dull family.
Many people say that without Yang Jiang, there would be no Zhongshu. Although it is a bit extreme, it is not entirely unreasonable.
Yang Jiang once said:
A talented man who is full of knowledge is surprisingly "clumsy" in life. Yang Jiang takes over all the chores in life without any complaints. Cooking, laundry, everything.
When Yang Jiang was in confinement in Oxford, Qian Zhongshu "got into trouble" at home from time to time.
Often say "I did something bad" with a grimace. He broke the desk lamp, but she said it didn’t matter, she would fix it;
He spilled the ink and stained the tablecloth, but she said it didn’t matter, she would wash it;
He had a cheekbone. She also said it didn't matter, she would cure it...
Someone once asked: "Is it wrong to marry into a Qian family and have to take care of such a husband who is always 'getting into trouble'?"
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Yang Jiang's answer was also very concise: "Because of love, I don't feel wronged."
Becoming a family is a great fate. Coming together because of love, it is natural to Love, be more tolerant and tolerant.
The best feng shui in a home is love. If there are too many complaints, there will be more negative emotions, the blessings will naturally dissipate, and bad luck will come to the door.
Even if you are wealthy, you cannot escape the firewood, rice, oil, salt, and trivial things at home. It is the presence of these fireworks that makes the home warmer.
Home is for loving, not grudges.
"Book of Changes" says: "Life is called change." A loving home is full of vitality, so why worry about not having good luck.
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Reject laziness and be diligent and thrifty
The best blessing for a family is hard work and frugality.
Diligence and thrift have been the traditional virtues of the Chinese nation since ancient times. Whether an individual or a family wants to develop, the two most indispensable words are "diligence and thrift".
Diligence can make up for weakness, and frugality can cultivate virtue. Diligence helps the family earn more money, frugality helps the family reduce expenditure, and only by raising income and reducing expenditure can the normal operation of a family be ensured.
On the door of the inner house of the Qiao family compound is a couplet written by Qiao Zhiyong:
The first half of the sentence means that the Qiao family must rely on their own efforts and diligence to gain fame and fortune, not Rely on help from others. Being frugal and cherishing is not because you are afraid of wasting money, but because you know how to be content and cherish blessings.
Qiao Zhiyong knew that although the Qiao family had a great business, if their descendants were lazy, undisciplined and spendthrift, they would only be destroyed in a matter of days.
He often said:
Therefore, in the Qiao Family Courtyard, each courtyard has its annual expenditure limit, and it is distributed uniformly by the head of the family, fundamentally eliminating the appearance of prodigal sons.
Many big families in Shanxi have theaters in their houses, but the Qiao family does not have one. They are afraid that future generations will become bored by playing with things.
This is also the foundation of the century-old prosperity of "Qiao Family".
Zeng Guofan once said to his family:
Most people in this world are ordinary people with mediocre talents. Without diligence, it will be difficult to achieve anything.
Even if you are exceptionally gifted and born into a wealthy family, if you don’t know how to be frugal and spend your money wantonly, you will not be able to keep your gold and silver.
People who know how to be diligent and frugal know that everything is hard-won, so they will cherish what they get and understand better that only by being content can they always be happy.
Only by keeping the original intention of diligence and frugality can the stability of a family be ensured.
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Observe the rules and establish a good family tradition
The state has national laws and the family has family rules.
The law cannot be broken, nor can the family rules be violated.
The ancients said: "The two words for losing a family are prostitution and lowliness, and the two words for losing a family are violence." If the family tradition is upright, good fortune will come; if the family tradition is not upright, disaster will not be far away.
A good family tradition is the best wealth left to the entire family.
"Fu Lei's Family Letter" has always been hailed as a "treasure book" for family education.
Mr. Jin Yong once said: "Fu Lei's family letter is a Chinese gentleman teaching his children how to be a real Chinese gentleman."
Fu Lei and his wife have been honest and trustworthy throughout their lives and have good conduct. Be famous and never owe anyone a cent.
Later, due to the many pressures in life, the two of them left a suicide note when they were seeking death, fearing that they would default on their rent:
"Fifty-five yuan and twenty-nine cents in cash, please Pay the rent for September."
Even before he committed suicide by hanging from the beam, he even put a quilt under the square bench in order not to disturb the neighbors.
It was Mr. Fu Lei’s words and deeds that helped his son Fu Cong become a world-famous pianist.
Without tutoring, even if you have huge wealth, you can hardly be called rich.
Home should be a place full of love, a place that can heal the soul, recharge the body, and make people happy. This is the most important meaning of home.
Such a family must have a good family tradition. A family where warmth and strictness coexist is the basis for a person's progress.
If we want the family tradition to be established and the rules to be enforced, we must first start with ourselves, do good deeds and avoid doing evil. In the long run, the family will be prosperous and we will be good.
A happy family and everything is at ease.
People are dealing with responsibilities throughout their lives. They must be responsible for themselves and their families.
A person who loves his family will naturally be protected by his family and enjoy long-term success.
But for a person who brings bad moods and bad habits to his home, the family will inevitably be in chaos and have no peace. He himself will also be affected by the family and do nothing.
As long as there is family around, life will never be in a hurry. As long as there is family around, life will always be warm.
I hope our hearts will be filled with care, happiness will never end, we can be our best selves and find the warmest home.