Why is Shanghai a paradise for women?

My personal feelings

I've been wanting to write about this topic for a long time.

I used to think that Shanghai is really a paradise for women in space, but I didn't say it because of the regional nature of the topic and fear of being attacked.

Because when it comes to Shanghainese, netizens all over the country are insulting, and I don't understand why.

I am a northerner. When I say that Shanghai is good, I must say that I am forgetful, worthless and hedonistic.

All kinds have labels.

But this is my personal experience. Shanghai really attaches great importance to women and gives them preferential treatment. Very civilized. Why can't I say?

I am a girl from the north. I have been used to the idea of male chauvinism and even son preference since I was a child.

When I was born, my grandmother left a message for my mother, what's the use of having a baby girl? Then, never look at me and don't hurt me.

My father doesn't do any housework at home. He can't even cook rice, and of course he can't cook pasta.

My mother can do anything. She works to earn money, does laundry and cooks, and sweeps the floor. ...

Northern women are used to serving the whole family, especially the legendary Shandong women, who know how to be warm and cold, serve men and serve their mother-in-law, and are virtuous and virtuous.

It was not until one day I came to Shanghai to study that I discovered that women can live in another way.

It is no longer a slave, no longer a slave of labor, but an equal and even superior existence.

Shopping at will is not afraid of being told by in-laws, eating and drinking at will is not afraid of her husband's anger, dressing up at will is not afraid of being called coquettish by others, and even cooking and housework are not necessary. Her opinions can be respected by her family and protected by strangers when she goes out. She will always be a spoiled princess.

Let me elaborate on my personal feelings. Don't exaggerate, don't spray me.

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High social status, women's identity is universally respected.

At any time, all the shopping malls in Shanghai are women, and men only have two things: swiping cards and carrying bags.

Occasionally, if one or two of the buyers are women, the waiters look at her male partner with strange eyes.

You can also read the awe of women from the eyes of many men, instead of disguised respect. This respect is easy to identify, and then it is contempt and contempt.

About being respected, my classmate and best friend in Inner Mongolia (she worked as a tour guide for a while) once gave me a detailed description:

If it is a group from the north, all the men carry their own bags, and the division of labor is clear. Some men will help and take care of women on the road, but most will not.

If you are from Guangdong (I don't mean to be black in Guangdong, but it's true), most men who are very old (40-50 years old) hug a little girl who is about 20 years old and don't do anything for her. Instead, they will be asked to do things. According to my best friend, girls often give a stack of money on the last day, and you can make up for it.

If you are from Shanghai, all the work is done by men, big bags and small bags, and women are relaxed. They don't ask anything big or small on the road, but men are taking care of it.

After studying in Shanghai, taking part in the work, and going out for an inspection or business trip with the leading colleagues of the unit, men always consider the tastes and preferences of women when eating. What impressed me the most is that Chinese wine culture is profound and they don't recommend women to drink. No matter how important the occasion is, no matter how big the leader is, as long as the lady says she won't drink it, she will directly change it into purple rice dew or other drinks, and she will never force it.

Look at other places, especially in the north, where many people advise leaders to drink and give up drinking, whether you are a man or a woman.

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Perhaps influenced by western culture, it has always followed the principle of ladies first.

Shanghai may be deeply influenced by western culture. The word "ladies first" is not just talk, but really put into practice in daily life.

For example, taking the elevator with the leader, even the biggest boss will let the women get into the elevator in advance, including the new interns, and will not continue to move until all the women are in. Admittedly, even if we are in a hurry.

At that moment, I thought it was really good to be in Shanghai.

Looking back a few years, I came to Shanghai for graduate study on 20 10. At that time, I didn't like riding a bike. My best friend Mei gave me a bike, and I ride it to and from school every day. Several times, my car broke down and I stood in line at the roadside garage. When the mechanic sees me, he will fix it for me first. "The little girl will be late for school." Other people in the queue didn't complain, so I cut in line for three years without shame. ...

Over the years, my impression is that where to go for meetings and meals, including queuing to buy things, is a courtesy of men to women. They gave way without thinking.

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No matter who, even strangers, will protect women, especially little girls.

I have participated in several solo tours in China (don't ask me why I don't travel freely, please refer to my self-report about road blindness), because most of them are from Shanghai.

When they learned that I was traveling alone, both elders and peers looked surprised and pitied: Oh, little girl, why did you come out alone? Where's your boyfriend? What about your family? Do they trust you? This is too dangerous!

Then, don't worry about loneliness all the time. They will take turns chatting with you in case you are bored.

When you meet any scenic spot, you will first think of taking pictures of you.

When eating, I will give you a bowl and chopsticks first, and then I will give you food first.

Along the way, I also asked about the cold, "little girl, are you cold?" I have a coat here "and" Little girl, are you hungry? I have some French food here. Do you want to eat? "

They really treat every girl like a princess.

Although I am a stranger, I feel warm and protected.

Last year, my husband and I signed up for a trip to Singapore. My husband felt very lost along the way, because my uncles and aunts in Shanghai didn't ask him anything at all, but took care of me. Originally, men are very hungry, and they want to eat more when they come to a table, but they always give me more food and ask me if I have enough to eat, regardless of my husband.

I saw him wolfing down the food while listening to the instructions of his elders to bring me food and water. He felt that he had no position. ...

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With high family status, Shanghai men like three women.

Not only in society, but also in the family, women's status is higher.

Because the respect and love for women are from the heart, men don't feel tired. On the contrary, as a netizen in Zhihu summed up: "Shanghai men are not only willing to do housework, they are simply willing to do it."

This is most likely to arouse the contempt of men in other places, especially in the north, saying that Shanghai men are sissy, not men.

I can only ha ha, male chauvinism is really deep-rooted.

Not a sissy, okay? This is called the way of respecting women and being a gentleman.

The logic of ordinary men is that I am exhausted from making money outside, how can I come back to do housework? I really want to say for the majority of women, am I a full-time housewife? Don't I also work to make money? Why do I have to take care of my parents-in-law with my children and cook and clean the house?

What logic is this?

What's wrong with being a housewife? Do you know how tired it is to take care of children? Do you know how difficult it is to educate children? I'm here to do this, which not only saves the cost of babysitting, but also is safe and of high quality, which is equivalent to generating income for the family. Why should I feel inferior?

Shanghai women not only have high status, but also know how to get along with each other.

Because they know that men may need it, but they never like a big momma with rough hands and feet.

For many years, men have always liked fairies in parliament.

Therefore, no matter how strong the working women are, they will immediately become delicate kittens when they close the door at home. A beautiful and helpless kitten that needs to be taken care of.

What they have to do is to say "my husband has worked hard" when sweating profusely in the kitchen.

High family status is also reflected in respect for opinions, and most things are in charge. I won't go into details here.

But in the end, I have to say that I agree that Shanghai is a paradise for women, and I respect and care for women.

I am also very happy to stay in Shanghai, a place full of vitality, respecting knowledge and contracts, and respecting women and vulnerable groups. Although many people hate Shanghai, saying that it worships foreigners and is obsessed with money, I don't think so.

There are many things that worship foreign things and flatter foreign countries, not about regions.

Money drunk? In China now, where is not drunk?

The lack of public morality and the decline of national quality are the fundamental reasons for advocating drunkenness. Children who come out of the mountains have the opportunity to get drunk and become addicted to money, which will be even worse than the average person.

What's more, Shanghai is not as obsessed with money as you think. It is a place that advocates struggle.

It encourages young people to struggle and make money by their own ability, which provides opportunities for many entrepreneurs.

However, I can't stand the work of Shanghai women.

No one in this world can stand his job except Shanghai men.

If you don't believe me, you can come and study.

I can't stand the exclusion of Shanghainese just as I can't stand the bureaucracy and arrogance of Beijingers.

People still divide books, just keep your feet on the ground.