Is the father's big pattern and the mother's good mood the best feng shui for a home?
A family consists of father, mother and children.
What kind of family children can have and what kind of environment they can grow up in depends on how family members build and operate.
Some people say that a father is the pillar of a family and shoulders the responsibility of the whole family. And the mother is the anchor of a family, caring for the fate of the whole family.
Therefore, the pattern of a father will determine the height that the whole family can reach;
And a mother's tolerance will determine whether a family can be happy and harmonious.
The father's pattern determines the direction of children's life.
We often say that a person should have? Pattern? To succeed. Among them? Ge? Is personality? Bureau? It is vision and mind.
A man's personality, vision and mind not only determine how far he can go and how high he can stand on the road of life, but also affect his next generation.
a man without a pattern can never support a family.
Do you remember that in the previously popular TV series Everything's Fine, there was a character who made all the audience hate her teeth? Su Daqiang
As a husband, he evaded the big and small things at home, was cowardly and irresponsible, and put all the family responsibilities on his powerful wife.
as a father, he is even more unqualified.
The wife prefers boys to girls, so she is very indifferent to her little daughter, and even won't let her continue to go to school with excellent grades.
But my father Su Daqiang didn't even say a word of justice for his daughter.
In the process of children's growth, Su Daqiang was stingy, selfish, irresponsible, only thinking of himself, and had no pattern at all.
When the children are all grown up, he will suck their blood even more.
He asked his children to do everything according to his wishes, otherwise they would cry, make trouble and hang themselves, and threaten their lives at every turn.
Su Daqiang never understood that children also had their own sufferings and difficulties, but all kinds of demons, intentionally or unintentionally, provoked the relationship between them, causing trouble at home several times.
Such a bad environment in family of origin has left a deep psychological shadow on the youngest daughter, and the elder brother and the second brother have both fallen out with their wives.
the role of a father should be like the front of a train, but that of a father? Pattern? Is the track, only the front of the car keeps moving in the right direction along the track, can we lead the family members behind us to a better and broader future.
Ye Shengtao once said: The four talented girls of the Zhang family in Jiuru Lane will be happy all their lives.
These four talented women refer to Zhang Yuanhe, Zhang Yunhe, Zhang Zhaohe and Zhang Chonghe.
And the reason why they are so gentle and dignified and have both ability and political integrity is also due to the cultivation of their father Zhang Wuling.
during the Republic of China, aristocratic families indulged in pleasure, but Zhang Wuling, who hated gambling, didn't smoke and didn't drink at all, was clearly seen by people? Alien? .
Zhang Wuling is not only fond of books since childhood, but also keen on running schools for public welfare when he grows up. His ten children are also full of reading poems.
In raising his daughters, Zhang Wuling doesn't want to cultivate them into boudoir ladies who can't leave the door, and the names he gives them are not kitsch. He also hopes that his children, whether boys or girls, must have broad eyes and broad hearts.
Four sisters of the Zhang family
Later, all his daughters found a good match that they could entrust for life, and all their six sons were outstanding, learning both Chinese and Western, which made a wonderful story in China's modern history.
as the old saying goes: Parents' beloved son is far-reaching. ?
a father with a big picture will understand, so-called? Far-reaching It's not to make your children succeed in becoming famous and rich, but to cultivate them into people with long-term vision, pure mind, integrity and courage, and broad mind.
Mother's mood affects the temperature of the whole family
Lai Peixia, a psychological counselor, once said in his speech "Why Happiness is So Difficult": When your mother lives in sorrow and pain all her life, do you dare to be happy?
the answer is difficult.
It can be seen that if there is no gentle wife and warm mother at home, it will be a disaster for both husband and children.
In the hit drama In the Name of Family, Chen Ting is such a suffocating mother.
When she was young, she went out to play cards and locked her young daughter and son at home. Unexpectedly, her daughter got stuck in her throat when she was eating walnuts, so the rescue was not timely and she died unfortunately.
As a mother, Chen Ting couldn't digest her inner remorse, and put the blame on her husband and young son.
she's paranoid at home all day, violent and indifferent, either yelling at her husband that he doesn't care about his family, or beating and scolding his youngest son, and talking hysterically about him? Killed my sister? .
the whole family has become a chicken feather because of this emotionally unstable mother.
If a mother at home is emotionally unstable and moody, the atmosphere at home will get worse and worse, and the children will become more vulnerable, sensitive and cautious.
in the end, these emotions will be branded in children's bones and accompany them all their lives.
On the contrary, if a mother at home is tolerant, gentle and sensible, the atmosphere at home will become warm.
Children who grow up in such a family will also become optimistic, confident, sunny and cheerful, and learn how to accept and love others.
liujing in Little Joy, as a mother, left a deep impression on all the audience.
liujing is gentle, but she also has her own unique strength.
whenever there are differences and tensions between her husband and son, she can always speak her own truth slowly, point out the crux of the problem, and solve all the contradictions in the family with wisdom.
once, the husband was so angry with his son that she comforted him gently. After all these years, your mother died and you didn't catch up. It's not your son's filial piety. ?
in a word, success reminds the husband of his son's goodness.
In addition, she will listen to the troubles of every family member in the family, and then explain them with her heart, which is not only a lubricant between her husband and son, but also closely unites the hearts of the family.
liujing is not only gentle to his family, but also empathetic to strangers.
once, she heard that a boy who was admitted to Tsinghua was forced by his parents to study a major he didn't like, and finally suffered from severe depression and jumped off the building.
other parents are saying:? It's irresponsible and fragile, and I don't know how to consider my parents at all. ?
and she felt: Normal people are not afraid of death. If they are not even afraid of death, they must be living too painfully. < P > Under the influence of such a kind and gentle mother, their son Ji Yangyang has grown up from a rebellious teenager and found his own way forward.
Mother is a beacon that brings light and warmth to everyone.
In a family, the mother's mood will directly affect the atmosphere between family members, and also play a decisive role in the formation of children's character.
Just as Hong Lan, a doctor of psychology in Taiwan Province, said: Mother is the soul of the family, while mother's happiness makes the whole family happy, while mother's anxiety makes the whole family anxious.
Only when the mother has a good mood can the husband and wife love each other, the family can be harmonious, and the children will grow sturdily and eventually become great things.
Family harmony is the best feng shui
After writing countless works and reading all the prosperity and misery in the world, Goethe expressed the feeling that family harmony is the happiest, whether it is a king or a farmer.
as the saying goes, everything is prosperous at home.
A harmonious family is inseparable from an upright, kind and open-minded father and a gentle, virtuous and understanding mother.
With such parents, you can grow up in an environment full of joy and love.
such a child must be the happiest person in the world.
the best feng shui for a family is the father's overall pattern and the mother's good mood.