What is the influence of war at home?

1. There are defects in personality. If the family is like a battlefield, parents will often have fierce quarrels in front of their children, even abuse and fight. Children who grow up in such a family are somewhat inferior, sensitive and irritable, which will make their children's character defective in short.

2, affect the concept of love and marriage. People who have witnessed and experienced their parents' long-term quarrels will lose confidence in love and marriage, find it difficult to feel dependent on others, and even distort their views on love. Because I am afraid of quarreling, I am afraid that a quarrel will be as hysterical as a bitch, so I will be very patient, even if I am going to drive myself crazy, I will never say a word; I am afraid that I will live this life of quarreling every day after I get married, thus resisting this lifestyle.

3. Self-loathing and lack of self-confidence. Some parents will say every day that I am not divorced because of you (the child), but I don't know how much harm this will do to a child. He will think that your quarrel is all because of him and always think that he is a wrong existence. Most parents who are prone to quarrel lack tolerance and patience for their children, and some even take their children as punching bags and abuse and belittle them at will. Over time, they will not only cause their children to lack self-confidence and optimism, but even feel self-loathing.

4. Subconsciously repeat imitation. Parents' bad temper in front of their children, even fighting, will be imitated by their children. Family of origin is imperceptibly shaping the child's character and influencing his behavior, and subconsciously learns to be out of control and quarrel with others. Even though I think all the time that I never want to be that person, I have learned to get along with my parents unconsciously.

5, causing the child's inner tearing pain. Some couples don't quarrel and like to solve problems by fighting the cold war and dealing with them indifferently. However, this indifferent family atmosphere is more destructive to children. Children are very sensitive, parents don't talk to each other, and children are actually afraid. Some children will get attention and care by making trouble and constantly making trouble. Other children will get sick and injured, just to let their parents come to see them together.