13 the rules of men in marriage.
0 1. Hold regular family meetings.
Rules need to be formal. Hold a family meeting, let everyone participate, everyone has the right to speak, and make rules based on comprehensive opinions.
02. Quarrel in front of others
In love, two people with problems go home and talk behind closed doors. Don't quarrel in front of parents, children, friends and neighbors. Occasionally quarreling in public is also to save face for your partner. You can't always say "high marriage" and "I can't go on".
03. Have a sense of boundaries
Intimacy does not conflict with self-boundary. You have boundaries, and so do the people you love. His idea is as important as yours. Clearly dividing your own boundaries is not only respect for others, but also respect for yourself. You will become more independent and confident, and you will treat life and interpersonal relationships better!
04. Intimate relationship
Always put the relationship between husband and wife in the sixth place. In this family, you are the hostess and he is the master. The rules of this family are up to you. In a healthy family, the first priority should be the relationship between husband and wife rather than parent-child relationship.
05. Relationship with parents
If there is a family problem, who will come forward to solve it? When the old man and his mother are in conflict, they should help each other, not relatives, and not take sides. Filial piety, but not foolish filial piety, can not be wronged by his wife for his parents.
06. Communication is principled.
When your partner has a desire to talk, focus on the other person's speech, don't play with your mobile phone during the conversation, and don't criticize or suppress your partner. Say your request or suggestion. Requirements should be specific and practical. At the same time, pay attention to positive expression, otherwise others will not know your needs.
07. Children's issues
Raising children is our responsibility as parents. We should share the responsibility, encourage and support each other more, and children will be happy to see their parents love each other.
08. Fresh
There are still some ceremonies during the holidays. No matter how long we are together, we must find a fulcrum of the relationship.
09. Message reply
You don't have to reply to the message every second, but you should reply when you see the message. When the interval is long, you can explain what you just did. If you have anything to report in advance.
10. Financial problems
Financial transparency, negotiation costs, especially large, money can't buy love, but it can give both sides enough sense of security.
1 1. About ex and opposite sex
Love is the executioner of marriage. It's not terrible that the relationship is over. The terrible thing is that love is not over yet, and you don't do anything that can't break the feelings of both sides.
12. Personal space
In marriage, you should give your partner enough free space, but don't betray his trust. Everyone is an independent individual. Giving this moderate space is more conducive to deepening their feelings. Don't revolve around each other in marriage. You are the first easy. Only when you take yourself seriously will others pay attention to you.
13. Sharing desire
In marriage, husband and wife should not be silent partners, but should often share their daily life together to enhance their love. You can set aside some time before going to bed to talk about what happened today and your feelings and feelings.
It's important to make rules.
These rules are agreed by the husband and wife at the beginning, which can make the marriage less hidden dangers. And it is best for husband and wife to make rules together, and they must abide by them. Don't relax the bottom line at will. If you break the rules, you will be punished. Rules need to be maintained by both husband and wife to be valuable. If it is only for speaking and writing, it is empty talk if it is not really implemented.