A good family is: Dad has a big picture, Mom has a good temper
A good family is one where the father has a big picture and the mother has a good temper.
I heard a sentence: "A child's personality and talents are affected by the family and parents."
Think about it. It's true.
Every child is initially connected to the world through his parents.
Parents’ words and deeds will inevitably have an impact on their future lives.
As psychologist Wu Zhihong said: Parents are the greatest destiny of their children!
Because whether a child can become a genius and whether he will be happy in the future is closely related to the personality pattern of his parents.
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The father’s model determines the height of the child’s life
The famous psychologist Spencer once said: “The father is the child’s gateway to the outside world. ”
I think so.
The children's future depends entirely on their father's vision and model.
What kind of pattern does the father have, and what kind of life height does the child have?
We are the authors of @Xia media. We once told the story of Uncle Mo’s three daughters:
Uncle Mo’s family had three daughters, but because his brother’s family had no sons, he took the little one as his daughter. The daughter was renamed brother.
Uncle Mo graduated from high school and opened a grain and oil store. The whole family had enough to eat and drink.
In his opinion, whether children study or not, it is very important to run a small shop like his and make a living.
His brother is a college student. Although his income is not much, he attaches great importance to early childhood education.
On weekdays, my brother reads with the children in the morning and guides them to read various books.
Compared with notes, my brother pays more attention to cultivating children's hearts.
Every holiday, my brother and sister-in-law will take the children to participate in various meaningful activities to increase their experience and horizons.
Sixteen years later, the lives of the three sisters are very different.
Of the two daughters who live with Uncle Mo, one dropped out of high school and the other went to college.
Later, they got married early and had children according to their parents' lifestyle.
The same child lives with a different father and has a different life.
It can be seen that the father's vision and pattern determine to a large extent the height that the child can reach.
Writer Huang Jingjie once explained the best way of family education: educate people with foresight, rather than educate children with foresight.
The parent model is more like the starting point of a child’s life.
The higher the standards of parents, the higher the starting point of children, the higher the upper limit they can reach, and the more opportunities they will have.
Parents with high standards are often the greatest happiness in their children’s lives!
Because the father’s vision is the child’s world.
There is a ravine in the father's chest, and the child's life can see the sky.
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Mother's condiments mask the child's sense of security
Please refer to the posts on the Internet:
Blogger is a self-esteem A low, insecure girl.
It was her mother who caused her pain.
The mother has a bad temper and often loses her temper over trivial matters.
When she accidentally broke the dishes while washing them, her mother yelled at her angrily: "I can't do anything well. Until I did something that harmed justice in my previous life. , I just gave birth to you."
My mother wanted to be strong, but she missed your promotion opportunity because of her pregnancy, so she always scolded her resentfully: "If it weren't for you, I would. It won’t be reduced to this.”
There are many other things.
Her mother's bad temper gradually became a nightmare she often had.
She became shy, humiliated, disagreed with her own opinions, and filled with guilt in her bones.
She longs to be close to the person she likes, but due to her low self-esteem and extreme lack of security, she has no courage to fall in love and still feels lonely.
Through words, I could feel her pain.
It hurts, but you must admit: the mother's bad mood will cause permanent damage to the child.
Many people find it difficult to heal and remain suffocated and burdened throughout their lives.
Writer Wu Zhihong once said: "The influence of mothers on their children is huge, especially the emotional influence, which will accompany them throughout their lives."
Usually, the temperament of the mother determines the safety of the child the creation or destruction of feelings.
A mother's irritability will only deepen the child's inner anxiety and fear, causing him to repeat bad intimate relationships;
On the contrary, a gentle mother can make her child feel loved. Love, it is easier for her to grow up in a warm person.
Lucky people use their childhood to heal their lives, while unfortunate people use their lives to heal their childhood.
A mother's temporary emotional release sometimes comes at the cost of her child's life.
The influence of the mother's temperament on the child is engraved on the character and soul and determines the child's destiny.
In order to educate your children, you can also learn to stabilize their temper, replace criticism with acceptance, replace shouting with tolerance, and express their emotions calmly.
Only when mothers learn to control their temperaments and live in peace with their children can they raise happy children.
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The best family: Dad has a big model, mom has a good temper
As you know, someone asked a question: Are parents really Is it a top destination for kids?
Netizen @Kong Kong told me his personal experience below, which moved me particularly.
Kong Gang was born in a poor family, and generations of people have been engaged in agricultural work.
During the peak agricultural season, many students are called to help, and there are always few students in the classroom.
But no matter how busy she is, her father will never miss school.
At his father's insistence, Kong Gang went to college as he pleased, broadening his horizons and making many outstanding friends.
He completely got rid of the fate of agriculture and achieved a three-generation leap.
In fact, his happiness was due not only to the general pattern of his father, but also to the subtle influence of his mother.
My mother has a gentle personality and excellent temperament. She never quarreled with her neighbors.
They are tolerant and kind to their children, never beat or scold them when they make mistakes, and always guide them patiently little by little.
Unconditional love and mother's tolerance not only gave Kong Gong a great sense of security, but also deeply affected his character.
Growing up, I inherited my mother’s patience and gentleness.
It is this good temper that has become the label of her marriage and father-son relationship, creating a harmonious and warm family for her.
Finally, she said she owes all her achievements and happiness to her parents.
If it were not for her father's general pattern, she might be like most girls in the village, marrying in a hurry, having children, and living a chaotic life;
If it were not for her mother Despite her good temper, she can have a bad temper and bang her head and blood during intimacy.
After reading this answer, I deeply understand this sentence: The best education is to fight for your parents.
This is not the money of the parents, but the style and temperament of the parents.
The higher the father's standards, the greater and better the child's view of the world;
The better the mother's temperament, the gentler and richer the child's heart.
Dad’s design is a lighthouse. The higher the standard, the farther your child will walk; the better your temperament, the more stable your child will walk.
The best Feng Shui for a family is that the father has high standards and the mother has a good temper.
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There is a line in the family education movie "Mirror":
"Every child is born with a blank sheet of paper. Both parents are painters. How the blank slate becomes depends on the parents. ”
In fact, if a child’s life is happy or sad, it is rooted in his parents.
Parents’ vision and temperament directly determine the kind of life their children will lead.
Children whose parents have high standards and gentle temperaments will be happy throughout their lives. Instead, the child was miserable throughout his life.
I hope that all parents can continue to increase their knowledge, control their temper, and become the protectors and messengers of their children!
May all children be treated well!