Whether the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is good or bad should be judged from what aspects?

For Xiaomei, the first rule of being a good mother-in-law is not to interfere in the marriage life of her son and daughter-in-law. It is entirely up to them to decide. But Xiaomei's mother-in-law has never done this. Since she got married, her mother-in-law has been fighting with her to be the hostess of this family. It is impossible not to interfere in their marriage.

For Yanyan, a good mother-in-law is to lend a helping hand in time when her daughter-in-law needs help; Don't bother your son and daughter-in-law when you don't need help, and live your own life.

But her mother-in-law didn't do it either. Take taking care of children as an example. My mother-in-law would rather play mahjong outside than take a look at her grandson. These beautiful children were brought up by her and her grandmother.

In the eyes of different women, a good mother-in-law has different standards. But in fact, whether you are a good mother-in-law or not does not need to be studied. You just need to see how she reacts when you need these things.

One: See how your mother-in-law treats you when you have no job.

My best friend Xiao Tao quit her job after she got married and stayed at home as a full-time wife. She thought she would have a happy married life, but all this was broken by her mother-in-law.

Because my mother-in-law was very angry when she heard that she didn't work and depended on her son to support her. She moved directly from the countryside to see what her son was raising. Idle people? What do you do at home all day?

But in fact, anyone who has been a full-time wife at home knows that even if he doesn't go out to work, his family will not be relaxed. Just doing housework and cooking is tedious enough.

Mother-in-law herself came from her daughter-in-law, but she couldn't understand. When Xiao Tao is not working, he is full of complaints, fearing that his daughter-in-law will take advantage of his son. How can there be such an unbalanced and nosy mother-in-law? Good mother-in-law

Two: Look at how your mother-in-law treats you when you give birth to a child.

The most vulnerable time in a woman's life is when she has just given birth to a child and is in confinement. If the mother-in-law takes good care of her daughter-in-law, this kindness will be remembered for life, and vice versa.

Why do many women's? Hatred of the moon? Never forget? It is because of this kind of injury that it is unforgettable.

A good mother-in-law will take good care of her daughter-in-law when she is in confinement, instead of treating her daughter-in-law as an outsider, regardless. After all, at this time, it is the time when the daughter-in-law needs most care and is most helpless.

Three: Look at your mother-in-law's attitude towards you when you are in conflict with your husband.

This reminds me of Xiao Tao's mother-in-law. Xiao Tao's mother-in-law not only doesn't like her not working, but also always likes to interfere between her and her husband. Even if she had a simple quarrel with her husband, she could jump up with anger and hardly see her son being bullied and suffering a little.

It can be seen that she didn't treat Xiao Tao as family at all.

A reasonable and good mother-in-law will not blindly take care of her son and daughter-in-law when they have contradictions, and will not deliberately take sides with them. This makes the daughter-in-law feel cold, because the mother-in-law is partial to her son, which shows that she regards her daughter-in-law as? Outsiders? .

Four: See if your mother-in-law will give you a hand when you have no one to look after the children or need other help.

A really good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to go their separate ways when they don't need each other, without worrying about each other or worrying about each other; If necessary, they will reach out and help each other in time.

Only in this way can the whole family be harmonious and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along harmoniously.

A good mother-in-law will take care of your children when you have no time to take care of them. Or lend a helping hand when you need other help. Don't disturb each other at ordinary times, let you and your wife live their own lives.

A happy marriage is inseparable from a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is stable and harmonious, so in such an environment, the relationship between husband and wife is generally not too bad. Even if there are occasional quarrels and conflicts, they can be solved quickly, because the mother-in-law will not take sides with anyone and even protect her daughter-in-law. From then on, the daughter-in-law will feel that she is regarded as a family, not an outsider, and will better find happiness in marriage.

On the other hand, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense and conflicts occur frequently, the husband and son will not only be caught in the middle, but also offend both sides if they are not handled properly. How can marriage be happy under such circumstances?

A good mother-in-law has always been hard to find, and everyone yearns for it, but not everyone meets it. If you meet it, you must cherish it, because not all women are as lucky as you.

Whether she is a good mother-in-law depends on her reaction to the above four things. How many is your mother-in-law? Let's leave a message and chat.