Is it necessary to live together before marriage?

If you are in a marathon relationship and you know each other well, there is no need to live together before marriage. If material conditions permit, just walk into the marriage hall, that's the business.

If you were introduced soon and both parents have been urging you to get married, it is necessary for you to live together for a while before marriage to see if it is suitable. You can't get married just to get married.

Another possibility is that the two sides are in love, because the material conditions are not available, they can only temporarily rent a house and live together until they have a house.

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Wen Jun and Xiaogang are high school classmates and college alumni. After graduation, they stayed in the provincial capital to work together.

Two people who have been in love for many years plan to get married as soon as they graduate from college.

Both sides have good family conditions and fully support two people to buy a house in the provincial capital.

Wen Jun and Xiao Gang happily settled down in the provincial capital and lived a warm life.

Wen Jun said, the two of us have known each other for so many years, and have long been as harmonious as touching the right hand with the left hand.

You don't have to live together before you remarry.

Xiaogang joked that we are married, which is the real legal cohabitation protected by law.

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Liu Liu is white and beautiful, tall and well-off, and she has a stable and decent job.

This girl is a standard white, and her eye for finding a partner is definitely not bad.

In the long run, I'm almost 30 years old and I'm still alone.

Parents were anxious, mobilized friends and relatives, and finally found a satisfactory object for Liu Liu.

The young man is thirty-two years old and comes from a neighboring province.

He is an executive of a company, tall and handsome, earning a lot of money and knowing how to make girls happy. He has good conditions in all aspects.

But how can such a boy with superior conditions be 32 years old or single?

Did he choose the wrong person like himself?

Although parents repeatedly urged Liu Liu to get married early, they wanted to have grandchildren early, but the clever Liu Liu kept a heart.

She suggested spending some time together first.

Because the young man is from other places, he naturally lives in the Liu family.

With the help of their parents, they moved in together.

During their cohabitation, Liu Liu found that the young man had a hobby of gambling and picking up girls online.

Although the young man was very hidden, because she lived with Liu Liu, he was found by her nurse in time.

So Liu swept the young man out of the house.

Later, Liu Liu fell in love with a classmate whom he hadn't seen for years, and found real happiness.

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Cousin and cousin's husband are childhood friends. They work together in other provinces and go home to visit relatives on holidays.

They have rented a house, and two of a kind is happily living together in other places.

I chose to live together before marriage because I don't have a house yet.

They love each other, take care of each other and live a sweet life.

Their wish is to mortgage a house in the city where they work as soon as possible.

They are going to struggle for another two years, buy a small house by mortgage and have a wedding.

They look forward to building a warm family of their own and having a child of their own in this city.

So whether it is necessary to live together before marriage still varies from person to person. There is no need or necessity for convention.

Cohabitation before marriage does not necessarily guarantee the happiness of future marriage.

If you don't live together before marriage, your future marriage may not be unhappy.

Among the questions asked by the subject, one key word is "before marriage". Before marriage, that means: lifelong events have been confirmed and recognized by both parents; Negotiations were held on wedding details such as bride price. In a word, everything is ready, just waiting for an auspicious day.

Is it necessary to live together first to confirm the marriage? My point is that if you are a man, you should still respect each other and don't force them; If it is a girl, there is really no need to live together first.

Although marriage has been confirmed, it has not been implemented yet, and there will always be unexpected situations for girls. That is being abandoned by men. If a girl accidentally gets pregnant while living together, she still has to have an abortion. Under the double blow, it is undoubtedly a nightmare for girls.

Tell a story of my friend to remind girls who have the idea of living together.

When he fell in love with his present wife, his father-in-law opposed him. After talking for a year, I broke up with tears because I couldn't see hope. Three months after breaking up, he met another girl. It took him less than three months to successfully catch up with that girl.

The girl is very conservative, and in the face of his sexual needs, she is limited to kissing and touching. Finally, under the promise that he would get married, the girl gave him the first time and agreed to his request for cohabitation. After living together for two months, the girl became pregnant and he decided to marry her. Later, I went to see both parents and talked about marriage.

However, just ten days before he and the girl went to get the marriage certificate, his current wife found him. Because I can't forget him, I want to be with him and say that I am willing to secretly get a marriage certificate with him.

Looking at his wife's tearful eyes, he was tempted. He still likes his present wife better than that girl. Although the girl was going to marry him and the girl was pregnant, he decided to abandon her. The next day, he and his present wife secretly went to get a marriage certificate.

Poor girl, although she finally got some money from him, can it make up for her physical and mental injuries?

As the saying goes, the heart and abdomen are separated. You never know what the other person really thinks. In the process of interacting with men, girls should think carefully when facing men's sexual demands, but don't believe what men say too much. It is better to give your body to a man later than earlier, and it is better to give it to a man later than to get married. Only in this way can we better protect ourselves!

Now there are also many girls who value chastity more than life. They can be crazy about boys or crazy about boys, but they have a strong sense of protecting themselves. In order to be able to hold your last line of defense, you can restrain your impulses at a critical moment full of passion. There is always a string in their minds to remind them that they should give their most precious first time to their right husband, so that they can be happy and have no regrets in their lives.

As the landlord asked, there is no need to live together before marriage. It can be said that I am an old-fashioned person and firmly oppose it. For those of us who fell in love in the seventies and eighties, if we live together before marriage, it will be no less than a scourge. We dare not even think about it, and even feel the heart holding hands beating red. If you live together again, it will become a shameless alternative in the eyes of others. If the company finds out, it will definitely lose its job. If parents find out, they won't kill us.

But in today's society, the rules and regulations that bind girls have gradually disappeared or even disappeared. At the same time, because the times are progressing, parents are there, and the old social model has become a thing of the past. In order to find a place suitable for their own survival, young men and women have to work far away from their parents. Without parental restraint, they can't control the impulse to love. It can be said that more than 70% of young men and women will live together before marriage, which has formed an atmosphere and is normal.

It can't be said that men and women living together are useless, about 20%. They love each other and know each other. They are the same person. In the end, they can get married hand in hand. The remaining 50% are not so lucky. They all found other spouses when they died early in their relationship. The loss of chastity cast a shadow over their marriage, which led to the high divorce rate today, which also became an important reason.

If we look at this problem from another angle, if men and women just met and lived together at first, there would be no feelings at all. It can be said that it is purely the role of hormones, which drives people's primitive instinct and meets physiological needs. This kind of cohabitation can be said to be extremely serious and rampant sexual behavior, but also the dance academy is extremely irresponsible to itself.

In the eyes of some people now, if you haven't had sex in love for three to five years, cohabitation will become abnormal and broken. People will look at them with surprised eyes, and even people in love will wonder if the other person has lost sexual function. As long as your feelings are mature and you are not qualified for marriage for the time being, it is normal to live together.

In short, people have their own independent thinking ability and their own living methods in life. As long as their behavior is not dirty and they don't lose their moral bottom line, how to want their private life is your right. It is also illegal for others to object to further intervention.

If two people have decided to get married, I think it is possible and necessary to live together before marriage.

After all, the lifestyle before marriage and after marriage is completely different. It is necessary to adapt in advance. Knowing more and running in more will also help to better integrate into marriage life. Because love is better, and it is not true enough.

Real case:

A friend of mine, he has been dating his girlfriend for more than four years. The parents of both sides have also met, and there is no opinion. But they are not in a hurry to get married and want to get used to each other, so they live together first.

Over the past two years, with the deepening of mutual understanding, many problems have emerged. But because there is not so much pressure after marriage, mutual affection is also the strongest time. Both of them are more willing to compromise and make concessions for each other, so they can patiently understand each other's ideas and deal with problems quickly. Although they have quarrels, they handle them better than their married friends of the same age. Later, their married life also made a smooth transition. Compared with people of the same age who have problems after marriage, their marriage seems so mature.

Summary:

Because love is simple and beautiful, unlike marriage, it has to face a lot of pressure and triviality. You can get used to living together before marriage, and the road behind will be smoother.

People are actually like frogs boiled in warm water. If the temperature rises slowly, it won't be so uncomfortable. But if you throw it directly into hot water, it will definitely rebound strongly. If the adjustment is not good, it may lead to family breakdown.

Conclusion:

So two people really have to live together in order to get married.

This is my sharing.

First of all, the advantage of cohabitation is that you can get to know each other better. In traditional love, since both parties intend to promote engagement, they will inevitably cover up their shortcomings to please each other in the process of getting along. The result is that after marriage, we will find that we are far from perfect. An exaggerated case is that Li Ao fell in love with Hu Yinmeng at first sight, but filed for divorce shortly after marriage. What is the reason? It turned out that Hu Damei blushed and her neck was thick when she was constipated, and she was scared. Although the performance of literati is exaggerated, it is generally reflected in all sentient beings, that is, when they are in love, they think each other is perfect, and only after they get married do they discover the truth and reflect on whether the original decision was too hasty. Cohabitation can solve this problem, because people can pretend for a while, but it is difficult to last long. When you are in love, you must find an excuse to hide in a deserted place. After living together for a period of time, getting used to it is bound to be reckless. In this way, both sides can better understand each other's deep habits and avoid feeling too much contrast after marriage.

Let's talk about the disadvantages of cohabitation first. The disadvantages of cohabitation for men are mainly reflected in the economy, because many women will demand to master the economic power of men. Once they break up, men are likely to suffer economic losses, but the amount is different. What if it's bad for women? Is that you may be picked on by the next person. As long as men grow up in the cultural environment of China, they will certainly attach importance to women's chastity to varying degrees. Because of China's traditional concept, it is a man's mission to carry on the family line, and a woman's marriage is to "help a man complete the mission of carrying on the family line in exchange for the material security of the other person for the rest of his life". The result that women don't pay attention to chastity may be that men have worked hard to raise other people's children, and it is meaningless to carry on the family line. A woman can hide her next choice, but hiding means admitting that she is wrong. Once the other party finds out the truth, the woman becomes passive.

To sum up, whether or not to live together depends on your ability to overcome disadvantages. For men, they just don't care about possible economic losses; For a woman, if her concept of marriage is "a contract for men and women to cooperate in raising children", rather than "providing material guarantee for men to carry on the family line in exchange for each other", you don't have to care about the next nitpicking.

Consultation on psychological and emotional problems is welcome.

Living together before marriage is very wrong 1: Living together before marriage is good for married life! Most friends who have cars have heard the word "running in"! This word is generally used in new cars! But now someone is using it in premarital cohabitation! You must have a new car to run in. If you want a new car, you must pay first, and then you can get a good card. This good card belongs to you, and you can run in! The so-called premarital cohabitation "running-in" is his driving without a license "running-in"! To put it bluntly, if the new car is not well run-in, it can still be sold as 90% new; But if you don't "run in" with each other well, in case the other party doesn't want you, then you won't "run in" for each other in vain! In addition, does anyone think that the running-in car is a new car?

It is very wrong to live together before marriage. 2. cohabitation before marriage can deepen mutual understanding and be beneficial to married life! This can only be said to be possible. What should I do if I live together before marriage and break up later? It's no use being familiar! Or do you want to know each other better? You must live with him or her for a period of time.

Living together before marriage is very dangerous 1: Living together before marriage is a reflection of mutual distrust! Why would I say that? Because if we trust each other, why not just register for marriage? Why live together before marriage? In the final analysis, are you worried that the other person is not what he said and can't give you happiness, or that the other person can't meet your requirements! That's why we got a premarital cohabitation to inspect each other! Satisfied you, you just got married! On the contrary, it is breaking up!

Cohabitation before marriage is very dangerous. 2. Cohabitation before marriage is not only irresponsible to each other, but also irresponsible to yourself! Living together is equivalent to showing neighbors and friends that we live together! I wish you were really together later! If you are separated, you know how much trouble you will bring to each other and yourself. It's painful to be lovelorn, not to mention living together and breaking up. What do you think people will think of you? You know, people are great! "This woman has been playing for three years", "This man is really useless, and he has been a cow and horse for three years" and so on! And how you will face your other half in the future! In particular, it is extremely irresponsible to live together before marriage with the idea of "getting married if it suits me, breaking up if it doesn't suit me"!

Cohabitation before marriage is very dangerous. 3: cohabitation before marriage is more likely to break up and cheat! Living together before marriage is a distrust of each other. If we quarrel a few more times, the subconscious will: treat me like this before marriage, get married! Who are you to me? What makes you say I care about me! Fortunately, I'm not married, otherwise. . . . It is very easy to find a partner when you gradually dislike each other, especially when there is no marriage binding force! Moreover, we must know that there are many suitors of good men and good women in this era, and even married people are doomed, not to mention that you are unmarried. There is a saying: as long as you are not married, there is still a chance!

Cohabitation before marriage is very dangerous. 4. It's easier to live together before marriage, afraid of getting married! Cohabitation before marriage is to jump directly to married life! Directly facing the daily necessities of life, the habits and problems of both sides collide! Quarrel is inevitable! If the two sides still hit someone, although they can make up in the future, they have already cracked! When it comes to discussing the registration of marriage, the unhappiness and harm you have suffered will emerge, making you afraid of getting married! Think about many people who are divorced now, fearing that they can't find a good second marriage!

Summary: The essence of premarital cohabitation is marriage black households, who enjoy marriage rights, but cannot guarantee corresponding obligations! So cohabitation before marriage is wrong and dangerous! True love please register for marriage!

Must live together before marriage. Not living together is tantamount to finding a partner for nothing and talking about a relationship for nothing.

People nowadays basically have no concept of chastity. Men are not virgins, and women are not virgins. The virgin complex is out of date. It has been swept into the garbage dump of history.

But not too absolute. You don't have to do this. It's natural for you not to sleep with her. Cohabitation has the advantages of cohabitation. Both sides can understand. Is it suitable? What are the advantages and disadvantages? It will be a hug.

A lot of love rat. In the name of finding someone. Live with many girlfriends. Brother Heng, hit you. That's right! Many women are also looking for someone. Cheated many people of their money. Cohabitation has advantages and disadvantages, and the advantages certainly outweigh the disadvantages. You can meet many men. You can also understand many women. There are more male and female friends living together. You will see your wealth. You can see through that many men and women like virtue.

Some people live together when they are dating. What's the difference with second marriage? It's just a lack of a certificate.

So whose new love is not whose old love, it doesn't matter if you live together before marriage. If you don't live together, how do I know I can't stand your stinking problems in the future? If we don't live together, how do I know if your's life values are the same? If you don't live together, how can I know what kind of person you are at home! Right?

According to people's ideas now ... basically there is a trial marriage (cohabitation) stage! Feelings are certain, and cohabitation is equivalent to finding feelings for marriage. ...

It is necessary to run in and match.