If no one protects you, then you are so cool that you have no weaknesses.

Text/Liang Yige

Growing up is free and easy, calm and calm. Before you are outstanding, no one will care about your hesitation.

When you are alone, you must be cool.

1.

Due to the environment and vision that I have always had, there have not been many amazingly outstanding people around me for a long time. In a sea of ​​people.

When I casually scrolled through my feed yesterday, my finger rested on a long picture of a book list: it was posted by my friend Lin Dong.

We haven’t contacted him for a long time, but it’s still hard to erase Lin Dong’s aura of being an innate scholar: more than fifty books in less than a year.

In high school, Lin Dong was the top student in the class next door. He always ranked first in the liberal arts class. He lived up to expectations in the college entrance examination and went to the best university of finance and economics in the imperial capital.

But everyone could only see him walking through the crowd with a smile on his face and immersed in reading. Few people really understood him.

Only I know that Lin Dong’s quiet growth is inevitable: in his third year of junior high school, his father passed away due to a work-related injury.

On the day he learned the news, Lin Dong ran to the wild alone and stayed there all night. He knew that from now on, no one would protect him wholeheartedly.

When Lin Dong told me this from the bottom of his heart, I felt a little enlightened and felt a pain in my chest, as if I had been hit by something inexplicable.

Then be so cool that you have no weaknesses, I answered him softly in my heart.

2.

People always experience some unknown pain before they are willing to peel off their bodies and calmly face the blood-stained or natural Heart.

But many times, we always like to use the stability of this world to deceive ourselves.

Anyway, the future is still far away. Anyway, I have my parents and family to accompany me. Anyway, friends will not say goodbye easily. Anyway, the world will not be so gloomy.

But the sad thing is that as time goes by, all this will happen quietly.

If you can’t deceive others, you can’t deceive yourself either.

Before the accident, Lin Dong had always been a cheerful, lively and leisurely little boy. It is difficult for anyone to imagine him as a mature aphasic. Later, he said that fate was fair and gave him the pain that adults should experience in advance, and that was how Lin Dong became the outstanding performer he is today.

I felt sad when I said that.

That’s it, there is a certain unknown weakness in the heart of human nature, which likes to walk along the road of life at an age when the weather is good, and sings loudly, “Why not just scream and walk slowly” and “Let the misty rain live for the rest of your life”, but only When I found that I was the only one left in the world, I started to keep my eyes open and slowly set out on the road one step at a time.

Fortunately, it’s not too late to set off.

3.

I remember that during the New Year’s Day holiday last year, I worked part-time with my best friend.

The weather was extremely cold in those days, and it was no help to wrap ourselves up in thick scarves and coats. Passers-by passed by in waves, and few of them stretched out their hands to take the insignificant piece of paper in our hands. .

I felt very aggrieved at that time. After standing in the cold wind for a whole day, not many people came over to support me with a smile. Most of them walked over in disgust, and some gave me a few blank looks.

When I went back in the evening, my legs were shaking with cold. Maybe I was too pretentious at that time and didn't have much confidence in myself. Sitting on the brightly lit bus that was speeding along, I actually cried out of frustration.

When I returned to the dormitory, I received a call from my mother.

"Mom, I went to post a single page today, and it was eighty yuan a day!" My tone became brisk, as if I had made a lot of money.

My mother is very happy. She said that it is a good thing that I know how to cherish my parents' labor, but I don't want to hurt myself. She will feel bad.

I resisted the congestion in my throat and tried to say "hmm" into the phone.

I know that I can’t stay with her since I am so far away from home. No matter how much bitterness I have, I can only swallow it by myself.

No matter how much my mother loves me, she cannot always protect me like an angel who follows me everywhere.

When you are alone, you must be cool.

4.

There is a classic saying: There is only one way in this world that cannot be rejected, and that is growth.

You can’t change or refuse, and growth is ultimately a person’s business.

Mr. Lu Xun once said: Loneliness is to turn off the lights and be with the glowing soul.

Yes, the coolest and most elegant moment is when no one is protecting you.

One person competes with life, one person fights with the world, doing work that no one can see, and suffering hardship that family and friends cannot see.

Independent and self-disciplined, no need to rely on anyone, no need to survive, so strong that there is no weakness.

Zhang Anqi, a member of the National Translators Association of China and the goddess of Mensa, has had a bumpy and warm growth path.

But she said that what she is most grateful for is the time she spent independently preparing papers and exploring scientific research when she was a freshman at Fudan University. At that time, she had no one to help her and could only rely on herself to do it little by little. No matter how annoying or boring it was, she still managed it alone. come over.

She said that it was the coolest time in her life, so much so that she later became the youngest teacher at New Oriental, and she still liked to do scientific research quietly alone.

Growing up is free and easy and calm. No one will care about your hesitation until you are outstanding.

5.

Maybe you are hiding in a dark room, with simple white documents in hand, and the only color of the sky is visible outside the window.

Perhaps you are crowded in the city subway, facing anxious and unfamiliar faces.

Perhaps you are hiding in a sunny afternoon, enjoying a rare relaxing break in the past week.

Your eyes are red: It’s really difficult to be alone.

Ordinary people have a kind of tiredness and sadness: without great wealth, without a beautiful appearance, there is no way out. I can't be soft, I can only be inspirational, I can only hold on, I don't want to give in early, and I don't want to disappear from the world.

How many times have I wanted to go on, and how many times have I wanted to give up? Even after countless dark nights when I was unable to do what I wanted, I still smiled at life the next day.

I just thought silently in my heart: Is there any age when you should be arrogant? The real treasure is to do what you should do in a down-to-earth manner.

Then hold on, because a person can really live a cool and cool life.

If no one protects you, then you are so cool that you have no weaknesses.

If you can bear it, the world is yours.

-End

I am Liang Yige~

A girl who is not cool enough is on her way~

Do you want to come together~ ?