A mother’s mouth is the feng shui of a family

A little girl who looked to be 5 or 6 years old was playing with water in the bathroom of the mall and got her sleeves wet a lot.

Her mother grabbed her. Due to the excessive force, the little girl staggered and said:

The little girl seemed to be frightened, and her eyes were dim, as if Like a puppet on strings, he allowed his mother to ramble on.

How much grudge do you have against your children to curse them to death during the Mid-Autumn Festival?

Why do parents always blurt out these hurtful words, especially to their children who are ten months pregnant?

Words are often the sharpest weapons. These words are like bayonets, inadvertently and deeply hurting the child's heart.

Hidden in the parents' meanness is the parents' humility and frustration.

A mother’s mouth

Hidden is the warmth of a child’s life

When A-Xuan was a child, she was always compared and never praised by her mother.

Every time in front of relatives, my mother directly said that something was wrong with her.

She felt very aggrieved after hearing this, and tears fell endlessly. She worked hard but was never recognized, and kept complaining when she made mistakes.

Axuan took the initiative to help with housework, but her mother thought she was doing it slowly and uncleanly.

She doesn’t do housework, and she is said to be lazy and doesn’t know how to contribute to the family and be considerate of her parents.

Axuan’s mother never gives up any opportunity to bring up the past, just like a broken record player, nagging her child’s misdeeds over and over again, and how the child made her Losing all face.

Her mother’s harsh and paranoid words planted the seeds of inferiority in the heart of 12-year-old Xuan. If you think about it carefully, how many things are caused by these trivial things.

Children are like a jar. Adults throw all their dissatisfaction, complaints, and harsh words about life into this jar. One day, this jar will explode.

When the vicious and mean words blurted out, any good things about my mother disappeared.

No child can shine in the dark.

"I am your mother, how dare you talk back to me?", the grateful heart turned into a complaining heart.

Mother's mouth

Determines the height of a child's life

Hu Shi once wrote in the article "My Mother":

Yes In reality, how many parents are afraid that if they praise their children more, they will go to heaven, or if they beat them less, they will have a prodigal son.

Tiantian has never been able to get her to change the way her mother talks. This is her most confusing problem.

Tiantian has tried to be gentle, tried to please, tried to be coquettish, tried to be fierce, tried to buy things for her mother. But for her mother to speak nicely to her, it seems that she can only do so if she wants to.

Tiantian doesn’t like the way her mother talks, but Tiantian feels that she is becoming more and more like her mother.

Tiantian has absorbed and internalized her mother’s occasional swear words and occasional roars without even realizing it.

These things are presented in Tiantian’s speech and behavior, so when Tiantian communicates with her mother, they often cannot communicate calmly.

They often quarrel, just over trivial things.

It seems like a curse.

Tiantian actually dislikes herself. The saddest thing is that children can never convince their parents.

Even if parents are used to facing their children with ferocious faces, the children will never be able to say no.

To them, praising children is a sign of overindulgence; righteously criticizing, criticizing, and even beating and scolding is the correct direction of parenting.

When children grow up, they can already distinguish right from wrong and can live independently without their parents. However, those deep-rooted habits of inferiority, timidity and self-denial will accompany the children throughout their lives.

In order to prevent the same situation from happening to the next generation of children, children also need to spend a lot of time and energy to appease their own hearts, give them courage and confidence.

Parents’ mouths

are the feng shui of a family

Emerson has a famous saying:

In every child’s heart is Soft and tender, a light word from a parent is sometimes more painful than a slap in the face.

Huanhuan is 32 years old. In my impression, she never went shopping sweetly with her mother. Even though she tried hard to change the stiff relationship between her and her mother after marriage, she later discovered that easing the relationship could not change her mother's temper. .

Before she got married, her mother scolded Huanhuan almost every day. Her mother wanted her to live up to her expectations and thought she understood Huanhuan.

My mother has always maintained her identity as a parent, and believes that beating and scolding her children is normal, and Huanhuan, as a child, has to endure it.

Huanhuan has been scolded by her mother for being a lunatic. She has been scolded too much and listened to for a long time, and sometimes she really wonders if she is a lunatic.

The lack of care is a gap, and the gloomy family environment is a sharp knife.

Speaking is the least expensive thing to do. Speaking well will test your wisdom and structure as a parent.

Smart parents never embarrass others with their blunt words in life, but treat others kindly, like a spring breeze.

A family’s attitude towards life and spiritual outlook will be passed on from generation to generation in a subtle way.

Parents’ mouth is the best feng shui for a family.

Speaking well is a lifelong practice for parents.

What is it like to be criticized by your parents?

That feeling can only be experienced by those who are in it: fear, tension, and anger intertwined together.

If the child resists arguing with his parents, the situation will be even more uncontrollable.

If this is the case, I don’t know how many children’s childhood will be accompanied by it.

Perhaps parents forget about it after scolding them, and they don’t even know they said these words, and simply treat their children as emotional "trash cans".

When children are angry, they feel that they are making trouble unreasonably.

Faced with verbal violence from their parents, some children regard the painful emotions as part of their lives and even rationalize them:

Sometimes, parents change their way of speaking. , will you be able to educate your children well?

During the house cleaning, the mother who had been cleaning all day was very tired, and then said to her child angrily:

At this time, you might as well say this:

The child has You can point out what is wrong, and it is really not advisable to insult children online.

When you go through this world, you have to say that becoming a relative is a kind of fate.

Don’t say hurtful words, say more heart-warming words.

Considering your children’s feelings and speaking well is a kind of kindness as a mother, and it is also a lifelong practice.

Cai Yuanpei once wrote in "The Cultivation of Chinese People":

For parents, raising children means raising oneself.

Who can sow a cactus seed and end up with a bouquet of orchids?

Parents also come from the perspective of their children, giving hugs and warmth to every child who suffers from verbal violence.

A happy family is free from sharp accusations and angry beatings.