After the vicissitudes of society, what do you want to tell your children most? Why?
With the growth of age and experience, we gradually formed our own values and a set of standards for judging right and wrong. In the workplace and society, bad guys and things abound. In most cases, others have not offended you, and there is nothing specific, just different values. That man was dragged into the hostile camp by us, which virtually bound his circle and vision.
There are often some chicken soup articles on the Internet. For example, for the rest of my life, with people who feel comfortable, one's greatest ability is the ability to make people feel comfortable.
It can't be said that the writing is completely wrong, but things are always dialectical and have two sides. If you use a value to mix society extremely, it is often yourself who is hurt and confused. Although the article is good and the ideal is beautiful, the reality is another matter. Looking at people who treat money like dirt, they may value money very much. Looking at your brother who thinks about you everywhere, the critical moment may disappear; Look at colleagues who won't compete with you. They may have already done their homework for promotion.
That is the reality. Can we say that these people are wrong? No, they are all secular people, who have secular desires and careful thoughts and can understand. The sign of a person's true maturity is that he can have two diametrically opposite values at the same time, and both of them can be accepted.
I have heard a saying: "The older a person is, the fewer people find strange things, the more things they can tolerate and understand, and everyone has their own difficulties." Therefore, we often see old people persuading some sharp-edged young people to be restrained and steady.
No, don't talk and complain about others behind their backs.
There are no secrets in the workplace! There are no secrets in the workplace! There are no secrets in the workplace! To say important feelings three times is really to eat too much and lose too much. In every environment, there is such a person who talks about others and complains about others. From subordinates to leaders, from systems to policies, from domestic to international, we can't comment and express some so-called correct opinions. The leader doesn't care about his employees. What should be the correct approach? This colleague likes to be afraid of flattery, so I never call a spade a spade and never flatter the leader. This system is unreasonable. What about other companies?
You have to believe that everything you say will be known to others. Of course, most people will still talk and complain about others in the name of being good for others and good for the company. Then please tell others in person!
There was a leader that Mu Mu Jun once talked about behind his back, so we had a chance to have a heart-to-heart talk. He said something that made me feel ashamed. "You know not to know, you don't like me, if you tell me face to face, I respect you! But you just said behind your back that those people are your good brothers and friends. But I tell you, they will tell me every word! The company has no secrets! " It was many years ago, but it touched me deeply. I am not qualified to blame those brothers who say that I am not good behind my back, because I did the same. Now I understand, don't talk and complain about others behind their backs. If you are really good for others, say it in person! Of course, one thing can be said behind the scenes. That is to say good things about others, say thank you, say good things about others.
People will know the same thing. It's easier said than done, otherwise there wouldn't be a special book called A World Without Complaints, but we can keep this awareness first and gradually change this habit of harming others and not benefiting ourselves. Although there are many shortcomings in this world, as this sentence says: "A real soldier is someone who sees the truth of life and still loves life." Pay more attention to your own growth and less attention to the shortcomings of others. More tolerance, more happiness, less care and less pain.
No, don't forget enterprise and sense of responsibility.
Now the recruitment requirements of the company are getting higher and higher. 985 started normally, 2 1 1, and more and more capable young people took up the main leadership positions. At the same time, there are veterans and middle-aged people who are slowly becoming veterans. The midlife crisis is not empty talk. If you search for the word "midlife crisis" in today's headlines, you will find many related articles and questions. But most complaints and reflections are too few. Why there is a middle-aged crisis is the responsibility of the environment, the ruthlessness of leaders and the cruelty of society. So, have you ever thought that you are incompetent? Have we lost our initiative and sense of responsibility? Recently, I often hear "don't forget your initiative mind, remember your mission." Units at all levels are also engaged in thematic education. In fact, it is really meaningful, but it has been changed by some units.
As the old saying goes, "It's never too old to learn." Let's take a look at these keywords: sideline demand, plan B, skill list, on-the-job graduate students, textual research, and professional title evaluation. What do you think of when you see these words? Are they important to you? If only TV series, mobile games, junk food and obesity are related to us, who are we to complain about being eliminated? Therefore, from now on, set goals and make plans for yourself, and always be enterprising and responsible. Mu Mu Jun's plan last year was to continue running, from 400 meters to 10 km. It took me half a year to make many positive friends. This year's plan is to finish half a horse and insist on writing headlines.
Nothing in the world is difficult for one who sets his mind to it. Keep doing simple things every day, and you may not believe what you have achieved. In short, don't forget enterprise and responsibility. The biggest responsibility for family, friends, company, society and country in this era is to make yourself a better person!
Finally, sum up. There are three main feelings in the society these years, that is, do a good job of "three noes", don't deny others' values with your own values, don't talk and complain about others behind their backs, don't stop learning and being modest, and don't forget initiative and responsibility. These are the views shared this time. Of course, I haven't retired and have limited experience. Please point out my shortcomings.