How to make a woman change her mind (can make a man change his mind)

Text/Lao Zhang is on the road

In the twelfth episode of Jin Ping Mei, after Ximen Qing put Li Guijie, a prostitute, in jail, Li Guijie spoiled because Pan Jinlian had offended her, and asked Ximen Qing to go home and cheat Li Guijie of a lock of Pan Jinlian's hair. Li Guijie "Go to the back, put the woman's hair under the sole early and step on it every day." Since Pan Jinlian's hair was cut off, "I feel unhappy, I can't go out every day, and I don't eat carefully." "I'm a little black, I can't turn around, I have a headache and nausea, and I can't eat." Because in the eyes of ancient people in China, the hair on the body has some mysterious function, for example, foot hair can exorcise ghosts, and hair can win.

The so-called "prolonging life" is a kind of witchcraft in ancient China, which refers to using restraints and spells to subdue and surrender. In the soul concept of primitive religion, people think that the souls of individuals, families and even tribes are related to a specific place or object and can live in a certain place. Wiccan practitioners will write on portraits or dolls, hide some symbol carrier of someone's soul, such as birthday, hair, nails, skin, etc., cast spells and curses, use acupuncture, smear with dirty things (such as shit and blood), and step on their feet. With the intention of making the cursed person sick or dead.

Then Li Guijie's sister won the plot, and Pan Jinlian didn't want to do nothing, so she asked Liu to change her mind, that is, women used magic to make men change their minds. Pan Jinlian, who broke up with Ximen Qing, asked Liu, a charlatan, to "carry her". The method is to "carve two figures of men and women on a wicker, write down the birthdays of his wife and husband, tie them together with 777749 red threads, cover them with a piece of red gauze, put moxa into men's hearts, pin their hands under the needles, stick their feet under the needles, and secretly bury them in sleeping pillows. Another cinnabar handwriting burned ashes and was secretly stirred in tea. If the husband ate tea and slept with a pillow all night, but after three days, the exam will naturally take place. "

Pan Jinlian asked Liu what he thought of these four methods. Liu explained: "It is good to teach your wife to cover her eyes with Shameng and make her husband think that you are as beautiful as a stone;" Use Ethel's heart to make him love you; Pin your hand, whatever, so that he won't hit you again; Glue his feet so that he won't go again. " "The next day, Mrs. Liu brought the objects and women in the town of Fushui. If the law is solved, they will be burned to ashes. When Ximen Qing came home, the woman asked Chun Mei to send tea to eat with him. At night, she sleeps with him. After a day, two people, two days and three days, are like water and fish, which is abnormal. "

These, of course, belong to nonsense and feudal superstition. Even in ancient times, people of insight were considered deviant and ridiculous. Even Xiao said, "People, big or small, should learn from monks and nuns and wet nurses. Remember not to provoke him. Can't do anything behind your back? "

The method used by Pan Jinlian is one of the common flatteries in ancient times.

Li Yu is a man who has been to the sea. In his view, women's myriad amorous feelings are all in one word "mei". In the eyes of Li Dacai, who has read countless people, a beautiful woman, that is, a "stunner" as Li Yu said, can change people's psychology at first sight because she has a charming expression. The world doesn't know that people can be "moved" by their beauty. In fact, beauty is just an object. How can an object "touch people"? The beauty embroidered on silk is very beautiful in color, even ten times more beautiful than the real person. However, the beauty of silk painting will not make people homesick. Why? Don't be coquettish. You can't draw a coquetry. The coquetry of a woman is like "fire has flame, lamp has light, jewelry, gold and silver have precious colors, all of which are intangible things, not tangible things."

Zhang Ailing, the grandmother of Xiaozi, is probably Li Yu's second-generation confidant. The women in her works are charming and delicate, flattering, shyly bowing their heads, flirting and flirting, all of which have won three tastes of women coquetry.

So when a woman who lacks coquetry, or a coquetry man turns a blind eye to it, what can be done to make a man change his mind? This uses charm.

In ancient times, a popular flattering method in China was to take a bath on "Children's Day". In ancient China, the day was marked by cadres and branches, and one day in every twelve days was the day when children met. The woman who takes a bath the next day will get the love of her sweetheart. The charm of "lovely morning bath" can be found in Wang Chong's Lun Heng in the Eastern Han Dynasty. Chong Wang didn't explain why "taking a bath in the afternoon" can make men fondle admiringly.

In addition to bathing, the obsequiousness of later generations mostly eats some wild fruits, fairy grass, human animal organs and so on.

During the Wei and Jin Dynasties, women thought that eating the fruit of Zhan Cao or Mei Cao could win the favor of men. "Zhu Hua Zhan Cao, the daughter of Zhan Shandi, has lush leaves, yellow flowers, as real as beans, and the server is charming." (China "Natural History? Volume 3) "In the ancient mountain, the emperor and the daughter died, called' female corpse', turned into grass, and the branches and leaves turned yellow, which was really like a hill and attracted attention. "Shan Haijing? Zhongshanjing

In the Tang Dynasty, Chen Zangqi's Collection of Materia Medica also recorded: "Peach blossoms are as thin as celery and purple flowers. When a child is hit by a mirror, the child will spontaneously. On the fifth day of May, I will take my son with me, so that the woman can be loved by her husband. " The book also said: "Without wind, shaking grass alone will give birth to the Great Qin State and the Great Lingnan, and it will be there every day on May 5. Marbles on the head, tails like birds' tails. When people open and close, it is automatic, so it is called "single shake" ... to bring it so that husbands (wives) can fall in love. "

Besides peach blossoms and bamboo trees, plum grass and Zhan grass, there are many other plants and animals that can make women attractive. There are also crane grass butterflies, queues, fine birds, cuckoos, the kidneys of male rats, and the charming meat in the mouth of newborn donkeys, all of which can make men obsessed with women.

In Song Dynasty, there was a monk named Zanning, who said in "Quotation from Self-Record": "Where a colt is born without landing, there is something in its mouth, such as meat, which is called flattery, and a woman can charm it." Because it can make women attractive, the meat in this donkey's mouth is simply called' Mei'.

Li Shizhen's Compendium of Materia Medica in Ming Dynasty (Volume 51) said: "There is a seal on the external kidney of male rats, and the two kidneys are opposite. It's especially good to have Zhu Wen Jiuyin. 1 1 month, February or May 5, July 7, and the first month, draw the north position and cut it in the shade. If cut, wrap it in green, leave the man and tie the woman to her arm. It seems that taking mouse kidney can not only make women attractive, but also make men perfectly satisfied.

In the Qing Dynasty, obsequiousness continued. The "Beauty Acacia Method" in The Continuation of Ancient and Modern Secret Gardens says: "A pair of lovesickness insects, frying on the fire, burning the crotch cloth of men and women, three points, one point of ice, * * * as the end, eating in tea and rice, then pressing the female Geng under the table, and then Jiraiya."

The use of obsequiousness often attaches many mysterious and incomprehensible conditions, stipulating when to harvest, how to harvest and how to wear it. Therefore, in ancient China, there were some wizards who cast spells specifically for women to win the battle of love, which became a profession and a professional technology.

The document "The Secret Law of Women's Marriage" unearthed in Dunhuang has the following records ("Yi" means to pray for blessing. ):

Married women have four ways to change their husbands' minds:

First: "If you let your husband love you, you will love your wife by itching your feet and looking down at your husband's navel." The woman scratched her husband's navel barefoot. Her husband loves her.

Second: "If you want your husband to love and respect you, take your husband's thumb and nails, burn them to ashes, and take them with wine." This means burning her husband's thumb nails to ashes and swallowing them with wine.

Third: "If you want your husband to love you and respect you, the woman will take 27 hairs from her head, burn them to ashes, and take them for testing with wine." I pulled out fourteen eyelashes, burned them to ashes and swallowed them with wine.

Fourth: "If you want your husband to love you and take five inches of mud from home, you are afraid of your husband." Take out the soil within five inches of your house and you will win your husband's love.

It is still inseparable from the physical attachments such as hair, nails and eyelashes as the raw materials for temptation.

Hair, nails and eyelashes have become props to tout drugs, which may be related to the ancient concept of "harmony between man and nature" in China. In addition, the skin of the body, influenced by parents, can not be damaged, of course, is very valuable. Li Shizhen's Compendium of Materia Medica in the Ming Dynasty said: "Hair is my blood, so it can cure blood diseases, benefit yin, treat convulsions and epilepsy, and remove cerebral blood." . Liu Jun 'an divided his hair into three equal parts, and took three beans each time, which was called "Returning to the Classic Dan" to make his head not white. ""Yin and Yang are easy to get sick. Nail 20 pieces with hands, feet and claws, one piece in the middle coat, burn ashes, take three clothes, and drink warm wine, which is hermaphrodite. "

Since these things have such high medicinal value, it is not a problem to make a changed lover change his mind.

Probably from the Tang Dynasty, witchcraft and obsequiousness merged. Since then, people have used witchcraft to protect peace, seek children, courtship and cure diseases. The main methods are pasting, burning and swallowing. Although these records are absurd, from the perspective of cultural history, they truly reflect the social reality of women's attachment to men in ancient China, and show the ancient relationship between men and women from one side.

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