Rich or extensive parenting: A big PK of parenting concepts among post-80s parents
Introduction: Nowadays, a very popular parenting concept among parents born in the 1980s is to "give the best to their children", which is the so-called enrichment. However, many people are opposed to this concept and believe that children are rough. Parenting can cultivate hard-working qualities and know how to cherish life. Parents born in the 1980s, or expectant fathers and mothers, what do you think?
1. As long as it is beautiful, it doesn’t matter if it is expensive
*** (Foreign trade company manager, 30 years old)
I like all beautiful things. I hope my daughter will love beauty and life just like me. Girls are meant to be pampered when they are born. Try to cultivate a sense of beauty as much as possible. I believe that the quality of expensive things must be good. For example, I PINCO CALLI, an Italian brand, is known as "the best in children's clothing." "Rolls-Royce", each of its clothes is a unique work of art, with excellent design and fabrics. Although such clothes are more expensive, they have collection value and can be given to friends when children grow up. children, and even to the next generation of children. The collection value of luxury baby products is greater than the use value. HERMES ponies are also very expensive, but I believe I will save them for my grandchildren and then tell them: This is the pony your mother played with back then... What a great feeling that would be!
The main reason why I like to buy some big-name baby products for my children is because they are of excellent quality and worth collecting. Treasure a memory for your children, the longer the better, when you are willing, when you are able, why not? There is just one thing that needs to be stated: my original intention of choosing big brands is that I think they are beautiful. It does not mean that I will buy them just because they are big brands. My shopping principle is to "only buy beautiful things" rather than "only buy expensive ones". Daughter There are clothes that cost 3,000 yuan a piece and clothes that cost 30 yuan a piece. I also like them both. As long as they are beautiful, I will buy them for her.
2. Give the best to your children
Mo Moliang (sales manager, 28 years old)
I am born in the 1970s , the baby's name is chosen by the naming company, and the baby's crib, stroller, milk powder, diapers, clothes... are basically "brands". It's not for anything else, but it's mainly brand things, so you can rest assured. In the future, when my children go to kindergarten, I will also choose more famous kindergartens, but these are within my ability, and I will not pretend to be fat!
No matter what age people are, their love for their children is the same, and they will give their best to their children. I don’t expect my baby to be successful in the future, I just hope that she will be healthy and happy!
3. Just one child, let’s be luxurious for once
ViV (i host, 29 years old)
Milk powder needs a brand name, not your own baby I grew up with a big-headed baby; I bought good clothes, but I was afraid that the bad ones would hurt the baby's skin; I hired someone to take photos for less than 1k, I think it's worth it, no matter how good my camera is, I don't have a photo studio
The effect is good; the stroller is from "Good Children" and the bottle is from Pigeon, which is against Japanese products, but my husband bought it, so just use it; I picked the name by myself, and others helped pick up a lot of them, but we don't use them. Being a mother once in a lifetime, we have the final say; we also buy expensive diapers for no other reason than TV reports on many unsafe things. We only have one child for the rest of our lives, so let’s be luxurious and don’t make the child uncomfortable.
4. Give to the most suitable, not the most expensive
Kangaroo Naibao (teacher, 27 years old)
I agree that "there is no luxury in raising children." This point of view, I think I am very sensible in this regard. It’s not that I can’t afford to take artistic photos of the baby, ask someone to name him, make fetal handwriting, and leave crystal hand and foot prints. It’s just that I don’t think it’s necessary to give them to him. There are more important things than this that can be left as a souvenir for him. For example, taking him to the welfare home, participating in activities and donating money, etc. These souvenirs are always more meaningful than those, right?
I have two babies and insist that raising children is anything but luxurious. I think that with my parenting style, I can definitely raise them well. I don’t want my children to spend their time in the luxury of loneliness. I want them to live a fulfilling and happy life in the company of happy partners and give them the best things for them. , not necessarily give him the most expensive thing.
5. It is better to raise children extensively
Ahua (doctor, 31 years old)
Aren’t they now advocating extensive raising of children? An overly refined life makes children lose the spirit of hard work and hard work. Although my family treasures children, there are limits. Extravagances that should not be allowed should be avoided. There is no need to waste even if the economy allows. The so-called 100-day photos and full-moon photos are just gimmicks. If you really want to have a souvenir, you can just take a few souvenir photos with your camera.
Foreign baby products are not always that good. It has been reported that many foreign products have problems. Are there really no domestic products available? As long as you choose carefully, there are many domestic brands with guaranteed quality.
Talkative Hanhan Mom, I personally think whether luxury is luxurious or not depends on personal economic conditions and consumption habits. There is no right or wrong or good or bad.
6. If you earn your own money and don’t steal or rob it, what’s wrong with spending it extravagantly?
Lala
All of these are based on the family's economic situation. After all, no merchant is willing to lend goods on credit without taking money, especially big brands. Of course, there are many reasons for these phenomena. For example, the quality of frequently exposed products is not up to standard. Buying big brands is often an idea of spending money to buy peace of mind. Who told us to live in a society where quality is not guaranteed? More families still live within their means.
Since Yuanyuan’s mother had Yuanyuan, I have become a loser. Sometimes I know that I don’t need to buy such expensive things, but I still can’t control myself when I see good and beautiful things. Just because it is my baby, I am willing to spend more money for him.
David
Aren’t the sons of aristocrats and the daughters of rich families raised in luxury since childhood? There is nothing wrong with people 8 knowing everything about horseback riding and archery in Chinese. The question is, do our families have that much money? If the family is rich and can continue to maintain it and protect its children and grandchildren, then there is nothing wrong with extravagant consumption. It would be funny if he was still gnawing at his old age, but pretending to be fat and raising a noble son. It’s okay to be funny all your life, and your children will learn to be like this, and life will be very tiring.
If a big tree develops the habit of "extravagant parenting", it will be detrimental to the baby's physical and mental health and will encourage its bad habits of extravagance and waste in the future.
Nian Nian Cat
The milk powder my children drink is Abbott, which costs nearly a thousand yuan per box. It lasts for more than two months. It is not a luxury; the diapers are mommy’s treasures. Basically, one pack a week is about 75 yuan; the stroller is a bit more expensive, more than 1,000 yuan; the crib is also a bit expensive, 2,000 yuan, but these are affordable and can basically be used for 1 or 2 Years old. My baby's clothes and daily necessities are all from Taobao. They are very cheap, and you don't need to buy too much, just get what you need.
The only thing I felt was extravagant was that I spent 1k to make crystal hand and footprint and fetal hair souvenirs for my princess, and spent another 1k to give her a 100-day photo.
Expert perspective:
With the improvement of my country’s material living standards, the newly wealthy class, mainly those born in the 1980s, have gradually become the pioneers of high-end consumption. They not only freely satisfy their own consumption, but also Benefit your own new generation in a cool way. Especially now, there are many kinds of daily life and educational supplies for infants and young children, with different grades. In fact, spending on children has become one of the joys of parenting for new parents and mothers born in the 1980s, so that their children can dress decently, eat well, and use them well. Comfortable, the family can enjoy their family leisurely and contentedly, becoming a beautiful scenery of modern urban life!
Enjoying affluence is the inevitable result of the development of material civilization. Generations of children will take the express train of greater affluence and create a higher level of affluence. Therefore, affluence itself does not necessarily create various dangers for children’s future development. , the key is whether the child’s perception and understanding of wealth are correct. For a baby before the age of 3, there is almost no danger in being wealthy, because he just obeys the instructions of his new parents to dress, eat and use him. He rarely has his own choices and will not form the concept of wealth. However, after the age of 3, the baby gradually becomes thoughtful, and he gains self-awareness by comparing with his peers. If he has the idea of comparing others with food, clothing, and clothing, if his sense of superiority in this aspect turns into self-centeredness, ideology, which means that the child's pure mind has been tainted by material things.
Therefore, we must consciously cultivate our children to become an elegant new rich child, so that they have a good perception and understanding of wealth, such as cherishing life, taking care of themselves, saving and environmental protection, self-discipline, and enjoying their own wealth without comparing themselves to the detriment of others. dignity. In this way, the future society and children will not only be wealthy, but also civilized!